Still seeking soulmate

Went on a second date with Joel. I’ve never met anyone with so many similar interests as me! Yet, I know we won’t work out. I let him know that after spending all day with him in Deep Cove. We went on a short hike, then just lied on the grass for hours.

Why can’t it work between us? Because his sense of humour doesn’t quite match mine, and, while I got used to how he looks a bit more the second time, I still found his looks a bit “unlikeable” as Mom put it.

In some ways he is really cute…arranging our “adventure” for the day, giving me three options! He was patient. I was an hour late! He speaks Mandarin, and has lived in Taiwan for 2.5 years. He vagabonded. He started business. He likes to cook. He is smart. He likes sci-fi. He is a devoted partner. He is snipped (no kids). He really should be perfect for me.

But I miss Jeffrey so much. He is a ray of sunshine. That, Joel is not. Joel doesn’t have that sunshine quality. That bright smile. That goofy, fun, playful soul.

Today has been a day of missing. I missed Joel. I missed Jeffrey. I missed Jeff. I missed Matthew.

I recently met a guy named Josh. An blonde, long-haired entrepreneur. Not bad looking. Also has a moustache like Joel does though.

Some people say that when you start to meet people close to your soulmate, that means your soulmate is coming soon.

Josh, together with Joel, and Jeffrey, and Jeff….and Matthew….they are all very different yet have major likeness to what I want in my soul mate.

Is my soulmate near? I hope so 🙂

I’ve been horny all day. Orgasms are good again!

Beach Day in Victoria

Ah, the weather is so nice these days. Warm but not too hot. Sunny all the time.

I went to the beach today. The water is blue! The sand silky and warm. There was beautiful piano music playing by a guy named Nathan. He came by to give me a free copy of his CD after. I then went to the grassy field and practiced some volleyball. It’s been a glorious day.

I think about this virtual world we live in. I think about the intention there might be and might not be. I think about how lucky I am. I think about being with Jeffrey…if he comes back to me I sure would welcome him, but there’s no scenario where he should give up on having kids.

 

New Desires

A few things happened lately.

  1. I want to get lean muscles and abs again! I’m gonna get a personal trainer. Goals:
    1. Get lean muscles and flat belly with abs
    2. Have more symmetry (volleyball isn’t so symmetric)
    3. Have more stamina
    4. Get a workout program that I can do while travelling
    5. Learn HIIT
    6. Have more power (to jump higher, hit the ball harder)
    7. Rehab my knee
    8. Learn to lift weights
  2. Uncle Ian and Aunt Jeanie are still nice to me. I’ll buy them health measure program in Taiwan this year. And for Dad and Mom too.
  3. I’m going to play volleyball 3 times a week so I can get good. I’ll find ways to do this haha
  4. Approved for Wifi Tribe! I’m going work on being even more location independent, so I’m ready by Jan 2018
  5. I suddenly felt really good this morning, as if my soul mate visited me. I decided to masturbate, and had an amaaazing orgasm. Somehow I imagined lying in bed with Matthew after sex and flirting/talking to him, making him fall in love with me. He is just not the type though. I can’t wait to meet my real true soul mate 🙂

Good – state change

Going to Wild Rumpus was such a great shift of perspective.

I was so deep into my life, ruminating over certain things. Going away – getting all sorts of stimulation, meeting new people, playing in the sun, dancing under the stars, trying new sports – was a great relief.

Not to mention I got to bond more with Erynn and Krysta and their friends!

I am missing Matt M. and wishing that we can hookup even though that’s not gonna happen. I know that he’s been friending other people, but I guess that’s a given. I should feel happy that he friended me, knowing that he thinks I’m hot. I’m way older than all the other girls he friended, but, still got it! Haha

Erynn is joining me for volleyball! So happy about that.

And Krysta invited me to that boathouse party during August long. Sweet!

 

Appearance

We talk about how acceptance of all shapes and sizes is important. How to not be superficial. How beauty doesn’t last.

Beauty is looking average it seems.
Then the Koreans have it figured out. They all look the same after going under the knife. They’ve figured out the formula for looking good.

Of course the down side is that everyone ends up looking the same.

The truth is, a good looking person gets treated best, in adulthood at least.

Young looking, great smile, golden ratios all over the place – face, body.

I want to love myself as much as possible, but I’m pretty sure if I look like a super model, my life experience would be very different.

I’d be getting free drinks, lots of party invites, lots of dates, lots of youtube fans.

Then again, a lot of really good looking girls got raped as a kid.

And, I’m fortunate enough to be good looking enough to be liked, but not too good looking that I get undermined or bullied or raped etc.

Is being an 8 out of 10 the best possible approach?

Maybe the best is to become better and better looking as you become a better and better person?

Wouldn’t that make the world a better place, haha!

This world is full of oddities.

I do want to look great for as long as possible. It comes with a lot of perks.

Improving at volleyball

I practiced after our games tonight. I was able to serve the overhand 4 times in a row!

It’s a good idea to arrive early and leave late, practice a little, over the net.

Aretha has been so helpful, giving me tips. She is warming up to me more now too.

 

Matt at the Wild Rumpus

Matt Margetts. I want to write a bit about him, just because I’m slightly infatuated…even though there’s nothing between us that can amount to anything.

He is one of the hosts of the Wild Rumpus. Probably a co-founder.

He liked a Facebook post I made about the Wild Rumpus, before going. I checked out who he was because I don’t have cute guys on my FB. Turned out he was also a former Olympic Skier.

He seemed super cute and I was nervous and looking forward to meeting him.

Arriving at the dock, I saw someone mentioned Matt, and pointed to a guy. I saw the back of a short guy with a fairly unattractive body in a weird outfit – no waist, narrowish shoulders, unspectacular bum, thighs too close to each other. He had curly blonde hair at below the ear length, which looked weird under a red cowboy hat. He was wearing a white wild rumpus top that showed no muscle tone, a pair of red shorts, white socks, and sandals. He turned around, and I saw a huge red gush on his cheek. Yikes. He was nothing like what I expected!

He spoke somewhat self-critically about how he was not remembering people’s names very well. By that he meant he can only remember the first 50 people’s names.

He was still a little bit cute, but he was not at all like how I expected. He sounded bi to me, and slightly unconfident. On the other hand, he seemed way out of my league before but now he didn’t.

Throughout the weekend, I kept observing him. I still got to find him attractive because, a) he is still cute, and b) there’s no one cuter.

He isn’t very funny, is maybe 5’8, has lots of chest hair, not the greatest body. Not to mention he is 29, 8 years younger than me. A partier, skier, drinker, smoker, drug-user, entertainer, who lives in Whistler. We have nothing in common.

But, he was the life of the party, he was nice to everyone, and he had the tanned skin and sun bleached blonde hair I love. I like his voice too.

He didn’t pay much attention to me it seems, almost to the point of deliberately so. At first I thought maybe he heard me telling Cyndi that he looked way hotter on Bumble/Facebook. I should not openly criticize people.

On Canada Day, he came to chat with Erin while we were at the craft table, but completely ignored me. But later that night, when we were at the fire, he called out my name to do the charades. I was surprised that he even remembered my name. But he knew everyone’s name.

On the third day, I was a mermaid. We walked by each other in the mess hall. I looked him in the eye and smiled a bit. He said “Nice costume!”, I said “You too!” He was Robin in Batman and Robin, except it was a girl costume with breast cups and a skirt. Haha.

Up on the mountain, hanging with the guys, a song came on. Everyone started singing, even me! I can’t remember what song it was, but I knew the lyrics to it. He came by and started singing at me ’til the “I love you” part, while making a heart shape with his hands at me….aww…It melted me a little.

Some people were playing frisbee and I joined them. Matt joined us too. He kept making people calling out the name of the person they want to fly the frisbee to. Remembering names is so important for him.

At one point he got Clayton’s daughter, and he guided her to fly a frisbee too. So cute.

I’ve never seen downtime with him. He is super dedicated and has limitless energy level. Then again, I heard he was doing MDMA.

I played slip ‘n slide kickball and had lots of fun! At one point I decided to take my shorts off. He lightly tapped my upper bum. He seemed attracted but avoided being too close.

We were picking kickball teams. When I got picked, I heard Matt say that I was sexy.

He was filming everyone with GoPro, and he did a 360 around me. I should’ve blown him a kiss. For social media!

He came by and bumped him bum to mine for a bit, while I was getting a drink.

He is friendly with every girl, but I can tell that he tries not to show favourtism.

After lunch, we saw some whales! We rushed out, so I left my bottle and star sunglasses on the table. Later, I was telling Neilson my alopecia story. I was at the end of it, then Matt tapped me and got me to follow him. We went to the mess hall and he asked if the bottle and sunglasses were mine. I wondered if he heard my alopecia story at all. I hope so.

Later in the day, we were playing tug of war. Me and Ashley fell on the ground and we laughed. He came over to check if we were ok. He gave Ashley a hug but not me. I wasn’t very jealous, because I felt that he was trying to hide his favourtism towards me.

That night during the dance, he was crazy! I was dancing near the front, and got a circle going. He came out of nowhere and started doing a solo dance. It was the most ridiculous dance I’ve ever seen, but entertaining. He would seem like he was gonna do a back flip, but it was just falling hard onto the ground. He’d lie on his belly and crawl forward on…. his face…I think… His comedic timing was great.

A girl wanted to grind with him in the centre of the circle. He quickly turned it into his solo performance again.

But later, he’d fake-grind with lots of people, guys and girls.

I was a bit jealous. It also made me think that he was a stripper at one point.

He did come to me, but it was so gentle. He came with his back facing me, which was pretty gay. I lightly put my hand on his shoulder, and grinded with him a tiny bit.

Later, he came back to me, facing me. We danced at each other but we were about one or two feet apart. We danced like this for several minutes, without even touching each other. It was a strange moment. I didn’t want to make a move on him like all the other girls. Plus more friends joined in kind of a circle.

I briefly danced with a very drunk but kinda cute videographer. Super young I think.

After that, I went back to my friends. Then suddenly, I felt a heat. I didn’t see that Matt had played a fire stunt! He did it again, bringing a lighter to his mouth, breathed out some alcohol, and created a huge flame. Suddenly, his face caught on fire! I was so worried! Everyone was.

Turned out he was ok. I still felt obligated to go beside him briefly and asked if he was ok, and put my hand on his back. I don’t think he noticed me though.

On the last day, which is today, he mostly ignored me. But when he walked by / pause at the entrance of the mess hall, where I was chatting with Erin and gang and had my hands to my hips, he suddenly put his hands to his hips. That potentially means he was mirroring me, which mean he is fond of me and paying attention to me.

As we were about to take off on the boat, he came by to hug us. It was the first time we hugged. It wasn’t that special though. I noticed something on his face flying in the wind. It was a piece of his skin! I asked if his face was ok (from the fire), he shrugged. Said it didn’t hurt and hope it doesn’t leave a scar. I touched his face, trying to figure out what was going on with that piece of skin. He suddenly stood very still as if letting me have full control. I wanted to peel the skin off, but decided to leave it.

There’s nothing between us, and there never will be, but I was attracted to him for sure, and I think he was attracted to me. That’s all I need from him.

He friended me on FB today. I was surprised. Then again, he friended 23 other people too, guys and girls. But of the entire cabin, I was the only person he friended. No Erynn or Krysta. I wonder why. (Krysta now too. Ha. I see. Just the cute girls and some cute guys.)

It was enough to warrant a couple healthy orgasms today haha.

It’s a good distraction from thinking too much about Jeffrey and other dating things. Though I hope it wears off soon…I don’t want to be attached to this….this infatuation.

Still wishing to find my soul mate. Thought we’d meet this June! God, please guide us to each other.

 

 

The Wild Rumpus

Just got back from The Wild Rumpus! Such amazing good times  Not your typical summer camp  Went with a cabin full of awesome friends and made new friends!

Highlights:
Each night, 150+ ppl in costume, danced on a huge open grass field under the stars. On the first night, all 15 of us dressed up as a colony of raver bunnies with lit-up bunny ears.

First dinner, we ate at the mess hall, sitting with people we just met. At my table, two people dressed up as beers, two girls in kiddie swim tubes, plus about 8 others in all sorts of awesome. “Prince of Pitt Meadows” put his speaker down on the table, everyone burst into song, and girl from across the room hopped onto our table and burst into dance.

On Canada Day, we dressed up as lumbersexuals. Made friendship bracelets and badges. Played Zorb Ball soccer! (Rough game!) Chilled at the beach, went down a tiny but exciting twirly water slide. At night, we sat around the fire and played movie charades. It was the first time I played the charades, and first time seeing someone trying to literally act out the words “Coyote Ugly” because she hadn’t seen the movie 

Third day was the funnest! We played slip and slide kickball, sling shot slip and slide, Hulk fists volleyball, tug of war, frisbee, and danced all night. Many of us were “super heroes on vacation”….Batman and Robin, ninja turtles, space cow boy and girl, the Mad Hatter, beaver, skeleton, and mermaid. We danced with tie dye Jesus, unicorns, some grapes, and many more amazing people.

Matt briefly caught on fire during his fire stunt, but was fine! Whew. You know The Wild Rumpus has a dedicated team when a host breathes fire and slightly scorches his beardÂ