One of the best ways to make friends who have the same interests is by being public about what you are interested in.
How have I made the friends that I like?
- Brian – ECF
- Cyndi – Fundraiser party
- Tyler – Cyndi
- Nicole Y. – Spikeball
- Yesol – Spikeball
- Dips – Volleyball
- Alex – Keith (whom I contacted at random on Facebook)
- Paul Jackson – ECF/Hampton
What are my ideal friend groups like?
- I’d like a friend or a small group of friends that are fun, outgoing, has time and money to travel with me or go on fun adventures with me! (Like, Korea beauty tour, Japan foodie tour, Zero G flight, visiting cute animals worldwide)
- I’d also like a local group of friends to hang out with, to play 2v2 volleyball with.
- I’d also like a local group of DTC friends, so we can hone our skills and strategies together (but maybe Mentorpass will do)
What are some successful friendship role models?
Sam and Shaan
What do I like about them?
They respect each other and they are a power couple.
They riff off each other’s jokes. They are both hilarious.
How did they get those friendships?
Shaan commented on Sam’s blogs.
How can I get the same?
They are both actively reach out to new people while actively broadcasting themselves (pod).
I should actively reach out to people on Hampton. Starting with women.
I don’t want to broadcast myself…let me think of a format that works for me.
I honestly had a lot of fun with Brian today. Very much like I anticipated.
We’ve always had a lot of talk about. I mean, around 2 years ago I wanted to hang out with him 1 on 1, because when I thought about who I wanted to hang out with the most, it was him. I hit him up, he said ok what are you doing this weekend, but then I got my lips inked and I said I’m free in 2 weeks, and he said nothing back. I never tried to hang out with him again.
I was definitely also attracted to him, after a long initial ick. I didn’t think he was good looking. But with mermaid clock in play, he got more attractive. When he invited me to the Hawksworth restaurant for his newly launched group, and that he ended up treating me that meal, I was very flattered and thought we had something special. I remember laughing a lot in Whatsapp conversation. But, he never asked to hang out one on one. And at the Hawksworth dinner, he sat Selene next to him and sat me diagonally across from him. I was mad. I didn’t talk to him all evening, and I had fun talking to 3 other guys, laughing loudly while knowing that he is within ear shot.
(I was trying to figure out my timeline with him, and found out that I’ve written it down in another post.
I was interesting to see all the guys I’ve liked in the past 3 years!)
He asked me what my ideal “pal” avatar looked like. I said I wanted what Sam and Shaan have. That when someone asked him what’s a product he spends hours on each day, he said it was Shaan. Haha. And I said that I figured Shaan is ENTP and Sam is ENTJ. I asked him the same question back. He said, Do you remember Selene. I thought, wtf, her? He said at her going away party (apparently she moved to Montreal) he met a guy that is also INTJ and they talked and thought the same. I asked if that’s what he wanted, someone identical. He said he thought about that too, and probably not.
He also asked me what’s the max number of people for a party he hosts that I would attend. He said he hosted something that was only 12 people. I said if it’s generic people I’m not interested. He said they are content creators.
I said my friend criteria are fun and reliable. He asked if “interesting” counts as fun. I think he thinks of himself as more interesting than fun.
I feel that he is making an effort to be friends, and I appreciate that. Also, he is always learning new stuff so it’s fun to hang out and learn new things!
