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Asked for Patrick’s address yesterday, and he replied fairly quickly.
He lives on a “Flamingo” road.
I checked out the complex. It looks great! Looks high end. Even has a pool!
I told him I love flamingos. He said, “Then I’ll take you to see live ones.”
That just made my day 🙂
So Matthew didn’t message me about meeting up in a month. In fact, the past two months he hasn’t initiated a chat with me. All he did was liking my FB posts.
I was torn. I did not like this. Thankfully there’s Patrick and Ashley. They offered some distraction.
I tried to calm myself down and not be too upset. I came up with possible reasons that he didn’t contact me, like, maybe he is getting over an STD, lol. Yes, that would’ve made me feel slightly better.
First week, I was still missing him so much. I smelled the towel he used. I prepared my “unicorn” outfit for when I see him. I even bought a Pusheen unicorn keychain for his birthday.
Second week, I felt awful because he still hadn’t messaged me. I hated that just when I went out on a limb and purchased things for him (face masks, keychain), he treated me this way.
3 weeks passed. I finally started to give up. I booked a flight to see Patrick. I continue to chat with Ashley. I didn’t think about Matthew as much.
4 weeks passed. I forgot about him in many ways and felt a little annoyed when he liked my FB posts (Like, oh, you’re still around?)
And last night, he messaged me. Saying that it’s been a long time.
I tried to stay calm about this. This morning I asked him why. Pretty much got the most insincere response I can imagine. He said he has been having busy weekends.
I replied to let him know that if he is too busy to meet once in 4, 5, weeks, and can’t even let me know about it, then that shows how much he respects me, which is not very much.
He replied to say he thought we can go about our busy lives and, said, but I understand, and apologized.
That’s also a bad response, because he wasn’t disagreeing with my statement about not respecting me.
Basically, he really doesn’t think he needed to respect me.
It’s really sad. Makes me sad. I would cry, but I have fresh lash extensions.
I wrote up a reply, talking about how I think busy-ness is understandable, but it’s only polite and respectful to let the other person know. I talked about how if I went to China for a month without letting him know, that means I don’t care whether I see him or not when I return.
But I decided to not send it. What’s the point?
The part that hurts is that I needed and wanted him in my life, every two weeks, or every weekend if I can. But he didn’t need or want me for the past four weeks, and he didn’t think he would lose me.
Well, he did.
I can’t think of a way that I would take him back. So, this is the end.
I know, people care in different ways. I would never be out of touch for more than 2 weeks. I would be polite and respectful. But, I also wouldn’t stalk someone for 7 years and try to meet up with them. What I consider a minimal gesture of caring, he can’t meet it. But he does other things that are more than what I would never do.
Alas. It doesn’t matter now. I’m just trying to see it this way so I don’t feel as bad.
I predicted that he would hurt me. I channeled into a “feeling” one day to see into the future a bit. I felt that he would hurt me and then make it up to me. I don’t see how though.
I tried to channel into a prediction about Patrick and I, but part of me is afraid to see it for real. So I don’t know if it’s accurate. I think we’ll be ok. I’ve been excited about this trip! Just that he is flakey so I really want the day to arrive asap, so I can meet up with him as planned.
God, please give me and Patrick a good time in Las Vegas! So far no luck with good times with Matthew (insincere asshole) nor Ashley (awkward, not sure if we are dating) nor Jackson (who tried to get my number again from Ty, but he is way too kinky and rough, not to mention too slow about getting my number).
I am so super excited about going to see Patrick!
Part of me worry about all the things that might go wrong. But I need to not do that. Everything I’ve been exposed to the past week tells me not to. TED talks, the speech by Paster Joel Osteem. Think positively. Believe that you have the abundance given to you in all of eternity.
It’s about 40 degrees in Las Vegas right now. Omg! I don’t know what I’d be wearing….tomorrow I’m going to Forever 21 to buy some cute clothes.
Ashley is hardly a distraction, but still, it helps. He told me an example of how geek he was. It was quite cute. He is such a good looking geek haha.
The fact that Matthew stopped talking to me….it’s hard on me. But I try to be very grown up about this. I’ve decided that if he asks to come over, I’ll ask him why it took him so long. We’ll go from there. For now, I won’t think about him.
On the ferry back from Victoria to Vancouver. The sun is gorgeous. The weather is perfect. It’ not too noisy on the ferry. No one annoying is sitting in front of me. Parked at the ferry, so I can just drive home after we dock. Ahhh, so nice.
I have to learn to love every moment in life. Have to learn that enjoying all the blessings does not mean things might go another way. It’ll take a bit of practice!
I want to do a daily “I am”.
I am blessed. I am lucky. I am beautiful. I am full of energy. I am influential. I am smart. I am happy. I am successful. I am excited about each day. I am abundant.
I am right on track in growing my business to $1MM revenue a year. I have a handful of fun, sincere, great friends who make me happy.
Mom has pretty much decided to not buy the townhouse. It’s a very nice house, but she can’t smoke on its balcony.
I like the house too, but I wouldn’t love it if I have to stay on the main floor. I’m used to staying on the second floor and having my privacy. I also love being high up.
But Mom likes the master bedroom more too. For that reason. I wasn’t super thrilled about it. It’s not too bad though.
Mom and I are now leaning towards demolishing this house and building a prefab on it. This way we can pretty much design it from scratch!
Mom just bought a townhouse! She saw it on day 1, bought it on day 2. Pretty hilarious. I’m excited for us!
She was looking into borrowing money from me, if it is needed.
So I tallied up my cash and stock. Apparently I have about $600,000 CAD total! And about $200K USD of it in cash. I need to diversify very soon.
Sales not going as well as previous months, which is worry-some. I’m developing the bridal kit now though. Hopefully the new products will do well.
Flight booked. Cirque du Soleil O show booked. Going to see Patrick in Las Vegas!
I can’t believe I’m doing this. Haha.
I’m scared and excited. The day I booked it, I was so excited I can’t sleep. I ended up sleeping just a couple hours before TEDxStanleyPark.
Then today, I woke up with a bad dream that Patrick facebook messaged me about some issues about me staying longer. That’s when I realized how scared I am.
I’m staying 4 nights and 5 days. Thursday to Monday morning. Longer than I had planned. But it’s the only way….he wanted me to go on the weekend, and weekend flights are expensive/sold out.
So I’m scared because, it’s fairly long of a stay. I’m scared because, he is not the most reliable person. And, scared because of bad experience visiting Idriss in SF.
But I feel better about this than with Idriss. With Idriss, I had a nightmare too. And I felt weird about it before going.
With this trip visiting Patrick, I’m excited!
Here’s my thinking:
I know I’m blessed with so much.
This year seems more difficult than last year. Maybe because last year I finally had a big break and thought it’s going to be more smooth sailing from here on.
The years before I took on a lot of frustration…probably even more so than this year. So I should probably start thinking that this is a shitty year (It’s the year of the monkey.)
China trip was full of obstacles, but many things also went smoothly. Got to see Sally and the owner, got to see pandas, got to meet with Jeremy and his staff, got to go to both Canton Fair and YiWu Fair, got to see the Yeh Family. Got to build a better relationship with Tina and Chris, Dad, Daisy, Uncle Bill and Jane, and Mitch. Got to see Jackie, Irene, Ning, Tiffany and her dad. Got to buy lots of new shoes haha.
I did get my Taiwanese passport. I almost lost my bag (with all my passports inside) but didn’t. Keesha really took care of things for me. Matthew cheered me up when I needed him. Oh and Ashley messaged me 🙂
Yes, lots of shit happened after I got back too. Hijacker. Bad, but solvable. And I did get rid of him in 4 days.
Sales not as good as February, but, I’m finding ways to improve this.
Matthew….saw him 2 days after I got back and we had an incredible time. But….haven’t seen him in 3 weeks. It was his birthday yesterday. He was depressed about it.
He’s been liking my posts on FB, but hasn’t messaged me. I don’t know what it means. I sense that he is either too depressed about getting old or too busy.
I try not to guess why he behaves a certain way. There are too many possible reasons, and it’s pointless to overthink. Instead, I start tiny chats with Ashley here and there. He is really cute.
Ideally, I have another fuck buddy, but, I don’t yet. Do I really have to go on Tinder for this? I guess I gotta look in order to get. Even someone sexy like Matthew has to put effort in.
Maybe I’ll just go see Patrick. It’ll be an expensive way to get sex lol. But I promised him I would visit in May or June.
I need to go hard at it. I need to get the rings’ sales up. I need to get the new products launched.
Meanwhile, play hard when I can.
This is going to be an amazing year. I’m going to make it awesome!
So sad lately.
I think it’s because
I want a boyfriend now, more than ever. How I long for a guy who really loves me, and vice versa.
I’ve been watching Felicity. At first I was all jealous of all the girls, because all the guys on the show are so sweet. But towards the end of season one, it’s just a big mess. These people are nuts, and their relationships are so tough.
Yes, I guess that’s what life is about.
Man, I so want a boyfriend…
Good Friends. I need them. I want them. Sigh.
Boyfriend. I want one too.
Norm has been kind of quiet lately over gchat, and I felt a bit sad that he was like that. I told him that my hijacker was gone, and all he said was, Nice.
In fact I’ve been feeling sad that I get no love from anyone. I have few friends, and they aren’t close friends. I like them, but I don’t love hanging out with them. I wish I had good friends that I can hang out weekly.
So I was surprised that Norm asked yesterday if I wanted to have ice cream with him and Sylvia.
I would prefer to hang out with just Norm, but I guess it’s good to give Sylvia another chance.
And indeed, she was better, more fun this time.
Norm still had to try hard to get the conversation going, but it was much better this time.
I guess when people behave a certain way that seems bad, it doesn’t necessarily mean they have bad intention. It’s something I need to keep in mind, because I notice that Mom tends to assume bad intention.
For example, she assumed that Roy doesn’t want us to tag along on the cruise. She manufactures that thought out of nowhere, even though Roy immediately sent us all the info needed in order to book the trip.
I’ll write more in another post about the cruise we are going on! 🙂
Anyway, what I want to conclude is that, when someone behaves in a way that seems distant or in anyway not meeting your expectations, it’s possible that there are other reasons, and it’s possible that are thinking of ways to change that.
I was suddenly super motivated the other day. I decided to focus on just one goal at a time, and got a lot done.
I’m trying to understand what cause the motivation. So here are some possible factors:
Next time I feel this rush of motivation, I’ll check back to see what got me so motivated, and see if there are parallels!