After all day of silence, John finally messaged me and said he had a good day sleeping in and walking outside. He said he’ll go to Whistler for a couple of days and will look forward to seeing me when I’m back, and that he misses me.

I’m so hurt that he is so distant. Even though it’s about him not me. He is stressed out. Too stressed out to think about me. To be present in this relationship.

I’m going to take a wild guess that you are still stressed out about work these days.

I hope you are making progress in coming up with more than 2 options you can take action on. And writing them down 🙂

How I can best support you? I sent you some ideas in the hopes they’ll help you arrive at the best outcome for you. Are they helpful? If so, would you share with me? If not, are there other preferred ways I can support you?

I was really sad today from not hearing from you all day and there seemed little effort or desire to spend NYE with me. But, I tried my best to get out of my head and stop thinking that it has to do with how you feel about me.

I think in the past when you stopped communicating with me as often, I felt as though I was just not important enough to you to be on your mind as often. I’m starting to understand that it has more to do with your stress level.

This stress has been causing you a lot of pain. From going blind to abs cramps to me getting mad at you and wanting to break up a few times. Has this stress helped you in anyway? Or changed the course of anything for the better? Has this stress helped you be more creative at problem solving?

 

I’m not ok with it. I want to you be less stressed, to have a handle on the situation, to be more present in our relationship, and to be more communicative. But, I’ll do my best to be patient and understanding.