I was so hurt by Alex bailing on me over his uncle’s birthday, I searched and searched for how to feel better.
I cried, I read other people’s sad stories, I left Cyndi messages, I googled “when men disappoint me”. I found a dating coach saying to visualize the kind of behaviour that I want from the guy. Align myself with that positive visualization, before responding. It was a little bit helpful.
Then I came across Matthew Hussey’s take on this. He said:
- Think of the guy as not intentionally hurting you, but just being stupid.
- Slow down …don’t respond right away…calm down first. This I did.
- Phone a friend…this I did.
- Be playful and cheeky in your response.
Wow. That was immensely helpful!
His las message was “We’ll have to go double rounds next Sunday then”.
I decided to reply with “…aand I need every inch of me kissed”.
That’s so much better!
I don’t know how he’ll reply nor if we’ll make it happen this Sunday, but, I’m glad I came to this reply. Proud of myself haha.
Before I came across Matthew’s take, I was gonna end it! I was gonna wallow in my sorrow, and cut him off before I felt even more hurt.
Cyndi said she would give him a pass too.
It’s just that, I haven’t been cancelled on in years! Last time that I can remember was when Patrick did it. I actually did what Matthew said. I playfully punished him to give me a strip tease. Interesting how awkward he was, and that later he became a stripper haha.