High energy moments:
For J:
- skating
- his fave game shows (because it’s relaxing and people are having fun)
- venting with his friends
- playing with his nephews
- eating good food
- driving, driving a nice car
- dressed up nice
- Researching the market and companies
- House shopping
- taste of richness and freedom
- family
- seeing people happy
For A:
- Out with his friends
- Working on his biz; being competitive and ambitious and anticipating a win
- Rare adventure
- Seeing a grey parrot
- Learning something; growing
- Simple carefree life
- raising his kids
- Japan
- Soup
- Anime
- On top of trends
- an escape from stress; simplicity
- friends; making connections
- growing himself
- growing something else (biz or kids)
- in a happening zone (Japan, trends, latest tech)
- experience and adventures
- family, nostalgia, good old days
- entertaining / pleasing others and being playful (being a mascot, playing pranks)
What talents do I have for bringing out the best in people?
- my optimism, my laughs, my energy, my wisdom/stories, being a good listener who gives undivided attention and shows curiosity, my compassion and kindness, my sense of humour
- J: being gentle, good natured, graceful, kind
- A: being a good listener, being funny, liking people and wanting to connect people, being generous with biz info in general, optimistic
What good do I see in my partner’s life that I can affirm, appreciate, respect, or praise out loud?
- J: diligent when it comes to his knee rehab, athletic spirit / strive to be the best
- Put cute notes for him
Ideas, plus good risk, plus persistence. Combine these three things together and you have a powerful combination that will not only surprise your romantic partner but also you.
For J:
It’s a nice sentiment, but when your date encounters you in this panicked state, what impression do you think he’ll walk away with? You don’t seem very sure of yourself, do you? Most likely, he’ll either be uncomfortable or feel sorry for you – possibly both. Now imagine using state management instead. You’re still scared about going on this first date, but you know you have the power to shift your mind into a more empowered state. Instead of simply saying the words and hoping they are true, you think of a time when you actually felt your best. You vividly recall the internal sensations of a day when you felt happy and super confident.
Now you let that memory guide your physiology as you adopt an outward appearance that reflects the memory of that state of pure confidence. You’ve got a great big smile on your face, and you’re rocking a sexy new dress. “He’s going to like you.” You see, the trick is, imagination always wins. Use your imagination to vividly recall a certain mental and physical state and you are automatically influenced by that memory. It works better than trying to go directly for the desired end-goal by using affirmations alone. So affirmations are where you’re saying something in an attempt to convince yourself it is true. State management is where you embody that truth.