Traits such as kindness, intelligence, and a great sense of humor can fuel a crush. But you don’t have to date someone to continue enjoying these aspects of their personality.
Facts:
- We are not that compatible.
- We already fought 3 times
- He has a temper and so do I
- He doesn’t compliment me
- He rarely laughs at my jokes
- He doesn’t make me feel smart even though I know he thinks I’m smart.
- He thinks he is the marketing guru, instead of respecting me or complimenting me on my ideas
- He is quite cynical
- He is not physically passionate
- Being around him doesn’t give me happy feelings (like Alex did)
- He is not caring to the extend that I need a boyfriend to be. e.g. he didn’t warn me about crossing the border. He wouldn’t “take care of me” in ways such as carrying my stuff, checking in on my feelings, making sure I have a chair, etc. Things that Ronnie would do. Maybe even Alex. I need more warmth.
- He works too much
- He wants kids
- He doesn’t proactively chase me
- He doesn’t want to hang out with me one on one.
- He is too serious and not very playful
- Flaked out on coming to my party
- Flaked out on hanging out with me one on one
What I like about him:
- Smart
- Funny
- Gives me free courses and advice
- Sometimes flirty
- Cute (such an acquired taste…but yeah I find him quite cute now)
What I kept going back to is how we looked at each other when the party had ended and I already hopped on the elevator and he was outside of the elevator, and we realized that we weren’t gonna hug goodbye.
Not sure if I’m just reading too much into it, but I felt that we were staring at each other for a long while, wishing that we could hug.
At least, that was how I felt…
The next day he didn’t ask me if I had fun. Last time I went to his party…the first time…he asked. But, when I thanked him this time, he replied with a kiss emoji.. who knows if he sends that to all the other girls…but I feel that he must not have.
He largely ignored me at the party. I was kind of hurt. But then I recalled how I squealed a tiny bit when I saw Stan. Brian was right there beside me. I had just met him a second prior, and I did not squeal when I saw him lol. That could’ve made him ignore me all night. I know I would’ve if he seemed more excited to see another girl. (And actually I did ignore him completely when he sat himself beside Selene at the Hawkthorne party, despite the fact that he paid for my dinner, and flirted with me before the party). The reality was I just didn’t expect to see Stan standing right there…yet I 100% came across as I liked Stan more than I liked Brian.
Gosh I miss Alex. I want someone like Alex, but is more mentally healthy. Not avoidant. Not ADHD.
I miss Alex’s warmth.
I realized today that maybe Alex is not ENFP, but rather, ESFP. That’s funny….the opposite of Brian, INTJ.