When I got mad at Alex about not coming to pick me up at the airport
Why did I get mad? I didn’t like that he was being insincere, unfocused, unthoughtful. I really really wanted to have a sexy time with him on the phone before I flew off. I really really wanted to have a perfect reunion at the airport and didn’t appreciate the imperfection
When I got mad at Nicolas about not giving me attention when I tried to tell him about my alopecia. I think that’s fair.
When I got mad at him for being selfish at the Make-It show. Probably fair too.
Sometimes I expect perfection.
Also, I was losing respect for him…I didn’t like him very much. I didn’t like how he looked. I didn’t like his sense of humour. I didn’t like this stupid Halloween costume idea. I didn’t like how much he relied on me.
When I got mad at Idriss for snapping at me for looking at his screen.
I was really mad because he assumed the worst of me. Maybe that was what Mom did to me so there was a wound there. I hate being misunderstood.
Recognize that some people do that. Remind them of circumstance v.s character.
Practice not doing it yourself. You don’t want to influence other to make them think the worst in me or other people. Assume “bad circumstance” instead of “bad character”.
I was really mad because he snapped at me. He didn’t need to do that. Dad was snappy when I was a kid. No patience. I hated that.
https://www.livehappy.com/relationships/5-tactics-coping-cranky-people
Never get suddenly really mad at someone. Always think of possible circumstance that explains the situation, so that I need no be upset. Think about the possibility that I was overreacting, or I had a wound, or they had a wound.
What to say to someone who is being bullied: