Opinionated Mom

I find it harder to be around Mom since I got back from Bali. There’s nothing new about how I feel about her, but I’m more annoyed this time it seems.

  1. I find her way too opinionated.
    1. e.g. I came out of the ferry. She had prepped me tea and food. I told her I bought a coke. She said, “You’ve grown so much acne and you’re drinking coke?” I have not had any coke in front of her for probably 9 years. I have maybe had 3 cokes in 9 years. What’s with this judgement? What’s with the acne comment? I just got back from Bali. My skin is terrible from all the sunscreen I think. But it’s so untactful of her to say any of these things. It annoys the hell out of me. I don’t want to say, “Listen, this is how I feel when you do this,” because then she’d have to feel extra careful around me. But that’s the kind of person she’s turned me into. Being too careful in order to not elicit opinions. Feeling that I’d rather not do certain things so I wouldn’t have to listen to her fucking opinions.  They are thoughtless comments. Brain farts. I resent that.
    2. e.g. When someone cute visits us, like Mark, she told everyone that I took forever getting ready. Why did she do that? To embarrass me? To flatter Mark? What a fucking teenager.
    3. I under-react because she over-reacts. I wish I could be more normal around her – get excited without feeling like a negative comment will be made.
  2. I find her wasting time talking and thinking about the tiniest things
    1. She tells the most boring stories about the tiniest things

What do I do?

I mean, she is not controlling. She just talks out loud. All her thoughts and opinions. I should not take it personally. I’ll just let it roll over my back and do my own thing. Let my actions and attitude do the talking.

Focus on her positive traits. She is thoughtful a lot of the times. Spoils me. Loves me. Supportive of me. And allows me to tell her a lot of things without being judging or opinionated actually. That’s why I feel I can talk to her freely.

Understand that certain experiences probably led her become this way. 

Maybe expose her to more new, fun experiences so she doesn’t sweat the small things.