I started trying to find a boyfriend around Sept 1. So it’s been a month.
I know I’ve been easily frustrated, but at the same time, I feel that it really is going to be hard.
I didn’t want a boyfriend before, but for some reason, I suddenly want one, and I feel so lonely for not having one. I think it’s a combination of my experience with Matthew and Fin. They are both inadequate non-boyfriends that offered glimpses of what a boyfriend can do.
I want someone who will love me, care about me, enjoy life with me, and create a better life with me together.
When I look around, there are so many women not finding boyfriends after 35. It seems to be the expiry date.
I disagree with such an expiry date, but, for the guys, there seems to be lots of them whose looks expire at 29.
Examples of failure and success in women
Success:
– Helen (Victor’s gf) (Keeping in touch with old friends)
– Norm’s ex girl friends and current one (Tinder)
– Cat’s friend Rain (Music and dancing)
– Gill (friend)
– Angela (friend)
Failure
– Erin (not sure. alopecia?)
– Nicole (not trying)
– Cat (not trying too poor)
– Cyndi (trying but going on dates with no potential)
Conclusion: Through friends and activities are usually better.
Examples of failure and success in guys
Success
– Victor (friend)
– Norm (Tinder)
– Wes (friend)
Failure
– Ricky (ugly, short)
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Conclusion: friends. But sometimes miracles.
Who are the guys I want?
– fit / slender
– easy on the eyes
– active (plays a sport, such as volleyball)
– smart
– ambitious
– successful
– mature
– has friends
– funny
– location independent
– entrepreneur-minded?
Where are they?
– maybe they are like me, have travelled a lot or worked too much, and don’t have many friends
– maybe they are going to volleyball, soccer, surfing and other sports to meet people
– maybe they are doing things they like, like improv, dj’ing,
– maybe they are in Thailand, Austin, SF.
– In Yaletown, or Kits, or Burnaby, with their own house.
– they probably are in ASM
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Action Plan
– Join lots of women’s meet up and meet more girl friends. Let them know that I’m looking, and will look for them.
– Join co-ed activities and meet people
– Learn to mingle and flirt (practice at November and December events)
– Buy a place in Yaletown or Kits (install sunlight)
– Do more sports (full of guys)