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Well, I’ve been very excited and worried about the Bali Chapter.

Last night I arrived at 2am in Denpasar airport. Took a cab for 200K. It was a 40 minute drive. Driving through the city was very interesting. I loved it already. Something about the air. The stray dogs looked really cute too. They seem to want to be adapted.

Dile and Filipa were super nice. I adored them. They stayed up for me! They are the sweetest.

This place is stunning! The rooster outside was super annoying and I didn’t get very good sleep. Also I woke up to someone smoking, which really pissed me off this morning.

Met Andrew and Kumar. Kumar was surprisingly formal. Talked about love with Andrew.

Jason arrived. He’s been in Taiwan for 20 months and can speak Mandarin! He loved Taipei.

Then finally at 2pm, Sam arrived. We had an awkward hug where I wasn’t sure if I should put both arms under his.

He had a biz call soon, and was on the phone for forever. I felt anxious. I wanted more time with him before Debra came!

Finally he got off the phone. We were all in the kitchen for a while, talking. I got to have a deeper conversation with him. He’s done some mind blowing stuff he said. It’s interesting.

Later he went to the pool. I walked by and he saw me. We talked by the pool for a bit, and then we played in the water.

It was all pretty platonic. But at one point he tried to get on the rubber ducky while I was on it. I didn’t want to go along with it because there were other people by the pool. He flipped the ducky and we were both in water. That was the most sexual thing today.

He asked how I was. I said I was good. Same as before. Happy, but stressed. I said that I need to focus on my biz. He said him too, and proposed that we be accountability buddies. I like that. But deep down I didn’t think he would keep to it.

When I woke up this morning, I had a dream that he didn’t even spend time with me upon first seeing me, and walked away with some other girl. I was surprised when I woke up that it didn’t happen, that it was a dream.

Tonight, he went off to buy some food with Kevin. I asked for some food too. He didn’t come back ’til much later.

We did have some good quality time today, but overall I felt that this was progressing slowly.

The fact that Debra was coming, that cast a shadow. Ugh. I’m so insecure!

So finally at around 10pm, Berta and Debra came! She wasn’t as cute as the photo it seems, and is shorter, but she is still cute.

It’s weird. Sam was a bit more flirty with me after seeing Debra. But I think he finds her cute, no doubt. I feel that it’s impossible for him to have chemistry with anyone else, but with Debra, there’s a chance. Not as a couple, but as a fling.

But as a fling will hurt me pretty badly already.

Damn. What did I get myself into? Forget about Michelle. This is now. This is gonna hurt I think.

He was like, I want to go for a bike ride, and then asked if Debra likes riding bikes. Debra said no. But, he made her laugh and she touched his arm. I can’t stand this, so I went to bed.

I’m hearing them (Berta, Kent, Alex, Debra, and Sam) laughing and it hurts already.

In all honestly, I shouldn’t be with Sam, so whatever. But I wish he wouldn’t flirt with someone else in front of me. Not even a little bit.

Sigh. I don’t know what to do. I think I may have got myself into something terrible.

In my ideal world, Sam would be into me and me only. There’s no insecurity from either of us. We just have lots of fun. Maybe fun sex. But it would be sincere.

Fuck, I don’t even know what I want anymore. Do I want to be with him? I don’t know. He looked good this time. He’s lost some weight. He looks taller when Robert is not here. He laughs at my jokes. I laugh at his. We played today.

If Debra wasn’t here, I’d feel so much better. It would be paradise. But, what is this? Why is there always competition? Now it’s potentially hell. If she wants him, I feel that there’s no way I can compete.

Why? She is light-hearted, fun, young, exotic, new.

I’m wiser, more accomplished, funny, also exotic.

As much as I believe in my value, all that matters here is if he sees these values in me as important.

Would he want to date me? I don’t know. Does he think about our age gap as being too big? Does he see a future with me?

Honestly he’s met so many interesting people, it’s so hard to say.

I feel that, if he wants me he wants me. If he wants someone else there’s nothing I can do.

The question is,

 

 

Today is going to be a wonderful day!

It’s the first day of Phase 3 at Canton Fair. I will have a special, superhuman ability to pick out my next star products! 🙂

Luck is on my side. Energy in my stride.

I’m fun, confident, and a force to be reckoned with.

Brandon is my guide. Ying is on my team. Bali community is welcoming.

Life is wonderful. Feel the bliss in your life! Enjoy and be grateful! 🙂

You are beautiful and very much loved. You are wonderful and everyone loves you.

Sales have been low (35 to 43 units a day) the past 3 days. Haven’t heard from Sam for maybe 5 days. I feel very stressed and confused.

Met Brandon and he liked me, but I didn’t know what to do to get info from him.

Canton Fair has been very unfruitful.

I’m closer to Stan and Masha, and have met their friends Anton, Irina, Masha, and Sasha (Alex). Sometimes I’m annoyed with Stan and Masha, but overall they have been good. I quite like Anton and Irina.

I was a bit high on Sam for a few days, after he said he can’t wait to see me. But at times, such as right now, I get so annoyed that he hooked up with Michelle – and another girl! – while he was flirting with me.

I kept thinking about how he probably was flirting with Michelle a lot behind my back. Why else would Michelle be ok with him flirting with me in front of her? Or even be nice(r) to me as time goes on? What on earth did he say to her or do to her that made it ok for her to have this hidden relationship, and be ok with him flirting with me, and not ok with him hooking up with someone else?

And why was he hooking up with someone else, and telling me about it? In the name of searching for love, he was going on dates and hooking up with these people. What a scam.

Am I feeling this way about him because I’m “sensing” how he feels about me? Or am I feeling this way because I’m coming to my senses, knowing subconsciously how things didn’t add up? Or is it because he is probably hooking up with Michelle right now?

The more I think about it, the more I felt that I don’t want him, and that I wished I hadn’t put myself in this situation of seeing him again for 6 weeks. It’s kind of Mom’s fault. But ultimately it was my decision. Why did I do that? I guess I wanted to see him, and I wanted to go to Egypt. But I wanted more to meeting someone else who is amazing, funny, good to me, good looking, closer in age, and reliable. I wanted more to travel to Peru with the Tribe!

Part of me hopes that I made this decision for a good reason. Maybe I’ll meet the love of my life in Bali.

Part of me feels that I made this decision in confusion because I was not thinking right after freshly breaking up with Alex.

This is a simulation, sure. But what kind? The kind where we are one? The kind where we have control? The kind where love can be found?

And so the trip begins!

As of 9am today, I was officially homeless. I air-kissed each room goodbye, then handed Frank the keys to the Burnaby Condo.

It’s a sunny day in Vancouver today. I lugged 2 suitcases and a backpack, and took the skytrain to the airport. Mom packed a ton of food for me. Mango salsa, cheesecake, mushroom and chicken, and wined eggs. I’ll be eating my own weight’s worth of food during the 12 hour flight haha.

I got a great seat. Second from the back, two in a row instead of three, so I got a lot of room beside me, and an extra under the-seat storage

space! Too bad the girl sitting beside me is grumpy. Other than that, all is well 🙂

I have no expectations for this trip. I just want to spend some quality time with Stan and Masha. Mostly Stan because he is motivated and inspiring. I also want to practice my charisma knowledge on the people I meet.

• Observe surroundings and make comments about things / have opinions (Matthew Hussey)
• Being a host – ask people if they are having a good time
• Ask interesting questions that elicit interesting and long answers
• Be playful and light hearted and fun
• Praise people (who are in ear shot and not in ear shot)

I think ideally I get to meet some interesting power sellers who can be my business mentor, partner, or a great friend. And that I learn something that will dramatically improve my business. That I learn how to shop at Canton Fair.

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In Bali, I hope for this:

• I have a great time! Laughing lots.
• I fall in love with a great guy who loves me very much
• I get lots of work done and make lots of progress!
• I experience a lot of the fun things in Bali, such as surfing, and swimming with the oceanic manta rays
• I improve on making good connection with people
• I make some great friends.

Sam, Kent, Berta, and Christa are coming! We were the first 5 people to get on Table Mountain. Not sure what the significance of that is haha.

Part of me wished that the entire tribe would be of new people, but part of me am glad that these people are coming. They are some of my favourite people in the Tribe.

I wonder what would happen between Sam and I. I know he has flaws that I probably can’t stand. And vice versa. But if he does turn out to be a great soul mate for me, then I hope we work out. If not, I hope it’s mutual and we still like each other.

First of all, he was on the nomad cruise for 10 days. And he will be somewhere after that for 10 days. It’s hard to say if he’ll have met someone by the time we meet. I can’t expect him to still be single, because he so desperately wants to be in love, and he is putting himself out there around tons of people.

If he does have a girlfriend by the time we meet, I’ll be sad, but I’ll need to be ok with that. Know that, he really isn’t that good looking, we have a huge age gap, and he is at the phase in his life and biz that isn’t in sync with mine.

Also, he hasn’t been that funny to be honest. It’s even possible that we won’t have the same chemistry this time!

I don’t know. I’m trying to imagine some scenarios so as to not feel disappointed. Because I don’t think we are actually going to work.

My ideal guy is probably more good-looking and closer to me in age, and is more reliable and dependable.

I’ve been so busy and stressed, it’s hard to feel excited yet.

When biz is not doing well, I feel like shit. I need to:

1. Plan out how I would address it – execute my plan, make progress, and feel great
2. Have a hobby that I can excel at
3. Exercise
4. Meditate
5. Hang out with great people who are ambitious and motivated

Part of me just wants to stay at Ying’s and work hard together. But, part of me felt that fate chose to have me go to China then Bali.

I mean, I can’t connect the dots ’till it’s all over. All I can say is that, everything that happened had led me to this point of being this person and doing these things.

I posted a white giraffes video on Facebook and tagged Sam. He messaged me to say that he’s met a lot of interesting people on the cruise and that I should go on it next time. He called me Space bunny again. I guess that means he is still fond of me.

I do still like him a lot. Sometimes I find myself fantasizing about us.

But I will try to not have expectations. I’ll go with the flow. Maybe we’ll fall in love with each other. Maybe with other people. Maybe not at all. Maybe duplicates. Maybe only one of us. Who knows.

I’ll do my best to enjoy China and Bali though! Be playful, sexy, interesting, intelligent, nurturing, and fun. Laugh lots. Joke lots. Be the life of the party. It’s a matter of what I set out to do really!

I’m excited about the dino taco holder. I feel that it’ll make me rich. Fingers crossed!

So much to do, but I’ve been addicted to Limitless.

Before that, Dirk Gently.

Before that, too busy being sad about the breakup with Alex.

I think about Sam too. He hasn’t messaged me since my birthday. Sigh. Can’t count on him to be consistent.

He did sign up for Bali Tribe though.

Our Slack chatrooms have begun, and he is on there. Kent too. So far we only have 12 people, and 2 are staff so I’m not sure if they are actually with us. I hope we get to meet Diego or Andrea!

I checked out the people. Filipa and Dile are staff, and are girls. Deborah is the only other girl besides me! She is 22, from Brazil, and super cute. Like the sweet, warm kind of face that I think every guy wants. Oh man.

The guys are very….well, typical I guess. No one cute. Well, one has potential but I don’t think his personality is cute. Another is not cute but his personality and sense of humour seem on point.

Then there’s Sam. I feel the need to remind myself to keep a distance. Observe before I act. He is so unpredictable.

I need to remember that:

1. There could be better fish in the sea – just as funny but more reliable
2. I can learn humour from him at least
3. It’s better to hookup outside the Tribe
4. Be friends with him first.
5. Give him space to explore and to chase me.
6. Socialize with everyone. Build those deep and fun connections.
7. Be fun, funny, energetic, charismatic!

Wow, time flies!!!

I’ll be turning 38 in 1.5 hours.

It’s not an age that ends with a 0 or a 5, so I suppose it isn’t as dramatic. I do want to take some time to reflect however.

Breaking up with Alex 10 days ago was very very hard. It’s been very very hard. I thought I had finally found the one. Looking back, we were having an ok time, but never an amazing time. The reason why it was hard was because he was so sweet to me, so loving, so handsome, so kind….and I so wish that he really was the one.

I was looking forward to settling down with him. Build businesses together. Enjoy our nesting time together.

Of course, I can still remember being sorta in love with Sam also. And all my doubts about Alex just before coming back.

Six weeks in South Africa. I thought it changed me and made me realize I needed to find someone funnier. But I read my journal from 1 year ago, and saw that I had wanted someone funny as a priority. I just….jumped in to quick with Alex.

Sam has shown interest, I think. A couple days after the breakup, I posted that I’ve signed up for going to Bali. He messaged me right away asking how Canada was treating me, and that he threw his shoe at a duck and it just wasn’t the same.

We’ve been talking almost every day since. About love.

Honestly I’ve forgotten how I felt about him. I really liked him, I recall. I thought I loved him even! The breakup with Alex just filled my mind 1000%. I feel more love for Alex actually. But I know we shouldn’t be back together.

Besides, Sam is too young and too unreliable to be my boyfriend.

He suggested that I go to Bali in May, because he’s going in May. I said no at first. But I changed my mind because Mom thinks it’s better for me to go in May. Then he told me he’ll probably rent an AirBnB instead of joining the WifiTribe.

That’s fine by me. Less drama for me if I don’t “have to” see him everyday. It’ll give me the freedom to hangout with and check out other people. Granted it’ll give him the same.

Nothing has really changed between us from our time together in South Africa. I’m single now, yes. But I don’t want to date him. I mean, if I know that he will be amazing to me, that he’ll love me, then, sure. But, I somehow don’t think he has the capacity to. He describes himself in a way that he seems like the best lover in the world. But, I don’t think he is.

I just want to find someone who loves me and makes me laugh often, and laughs loudly at my jokes too. Who is at the same time, very loyal, affectionate, passionate, reliable, healthy physically and mentally, has decent savings and income, is successful, does not “need” my help but we can and like to help each other, deserves my respect, inspires me, and is generous and kind. Oh and ideally, similar to me in age.

Sam is great. But he is at a different stage in his life and career. I know, I’m saying all this with in mind that he probably isn’t a mature enough and devoted enough of a boyfriend. But if he were, those things don’t matter. Because he makes me laugh, so hard. That’s a super important (and rare) thing.

Yes I kind of wish that he is the one and we’ll live happily ever after. I’m not optimistic about that though. So, I’ll just be indifferent for now. There are plenty of fish in the sea. There really are.

I want someone whom I can do the most boring things with and still have fun!

Alright, so that’s love at the moment.

Business. Well, business isn’t great at the moment. Sales had a sharp decline since last August/September. About the time I met Alex. Maybe now that we’ve broken up it’ll go up? haha

Gonna hire CPC Strategy to mange my ppc ads. Gonna release more rings. Not sure what to do aside from that. I’m blank at the moment. Just very lost in the breakup. I think I need to spend money to grow it this year. And be creative with what to do about the rings next.

Money. Well, I got to about $1.15MM recently. Stocks have dropped though, so I’m not sure if I’m still at that. Actually, thanks to Alex, I sold all my FB stocks. They are now $20 less than when I told them. Thanks, my Bunny.

Living. Well, rent was $700/month here in Burnaby. But I moved in with Alex and now I’ve lost this place. Sigh. It’s a sign that I should move on though. Be more dynamic. More nomadic. Maybe I’ll stay in Bali for half of the year as I have wanted (To spend cold months in a tropical place)!

Health. Overall great. Growing a mohawk! Want to get toned for Bali.

I count my blessings and thank my lucky stars. Thank you my Goddess of Compassion. Thank you, everyone who have passed on.

I hope this year is full of joy, laughter, wonder, love, success, wealth, health!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Yesterday I posted on FB about signing up for 2 more chapters, and my intention of going to Bali. I kind of wanted to see who are going, and I guess I kinda wanted Sam to know about it. I don’t feel anything about him right now though. My head is 1000% Alex. I still feel so heart broken.

Sure enough, Sam messaged me today. Actually I’m a little surprised. It’s a sign that he likes me I think. More than a little bit like.

I remember having a conversation with him about Alex. I told him that I felt pessimistic about me and Alex.

He said Oh Tanya, you gotta protect your heart. I thought, “I’m not worried about my feelings. I’m worried about Bunny’s feelings. I’ll be ok!” But, he was right. My heart hurts.

Alex, my bunny. I thought we were supposed to grow old together! There were warning signs in the beginning, but I overlooked them. And so did he.

And in truth, he was the best I’ve met so far. Sweet, loving, handsome, tall, blue eyes, slender, loyal, and sometimes funny. You were everything on my list, baby!

But, maybe the list is BS.

I met Sam. He made me laugh so much. For the first time, I didn’t care about looks. I felt that I could be with him and love him forever.

We seem to be able to talk to each other so easily, and think very much the same way.

BUT…there are many buts.

He is 26, 11 years younger. He hasn’t lived long enough, and we may have generation gaps.

He slept with at least 2 people while he was supposedly smitten with me.

He had a track record of getting distracted (reading a book at a party, falling asleep at random as he gets bored, as he told me), behaving weirdly socially (going home without telling Robert), being unreliable, getting bored easily, can’t focus. The list goes on.

Timing wise, he doesn’t have a job, and is hoping to start a few businesses. That’s not good. Reminds me of Idriss. At the beginning he was all hopeful and excited. But the next year, he was beaten by entrepreneurship. He was mean to me. It’s a hard life until you’ve made it.

I think Sam wants me to mentor him in business.

Do I believe in him?

Not really.

I think he has good ideas, and he’s proven to be able to make money, but, does he have follow-through? Does he have focus? He is ENFP. That’s not a good sign for follow-throughs. Then again, ENTP doesn’t either. But, ENTP is supposedly very good at entrepreneurship. But then, Ty doesn’t want to.

Maybe Myers Briggs is largely BS.

Anyway. I’m in Burnaby now. Being away from Alex does help me calm down and feel happier. I feel that I’m back to where I began, crying in front of Goddess of Compassion some time after Jeffrey, begging to find my soul mate, or, someone to fill my lonely void.

That time when Alex broke up with me, I cried to the Goddess of Compassion that I wanted someone to fill that time before WifiTribe began. Well, the timing was  not what I expected. Alex came back and we lasted ’til two weeks after WifiTribe chapter was over. For better or for worse.

Sometimes it was miserable to have a bf while in the tribe, but it did give me the chance to get to know Sam, and wonder if he liked me.

I don’t know what’s happening next…but I know I’ll feel better and better!

Sam asked me what I wanted the future to hold. I said:

Future – explore, grow, go on adventures, laugh all the time, love, have amazing sex, make a positive difference, make great friends, connect deeply…and, hopefully, find someone to do all that with.

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He wrote back and asked me some business question. To be honest I thought he’d be asking me to meet up with him somewhere in the world. But, I wouldn’t want to.

Do I want to help him in business? Not really either….

I only want to help people in biz if they can help me. Don’t like newbies.

Well, I’ll help him a bit. He did make me laugh.

 

 

 

I learned something today.

When someone is gone or no longer available to you, the feeling of love surges.

I didn’t feel it as strongly with Jeffrey, but I definitely felt it with Alex.

After coming back from South Africa, for nearly a week, I was thinking about Sam the whole time. I felt no love for Alex.

I was ashamed about my emotional love affair with Sam. I didn’t even fantasize about sex with him. I was in love with him.

When that had just about worn out, I started to feel something for Alex. But I found so many things about him boring and uninspiring and pathetic.

Not wanting to donate blood. Not really wanting to help people outside of work while claiming that he loves to help people.

Always complaining. About things, about people.

Always rejecting my ideas.

No follow through. Agreed to deadline and didn’t write the two articles.

Hate how we fight and him being very assuming. He always interprets what I say in a negative way.

Acting like he is positive while it’s more….indifference.

Saying that money is not important, but does not realize that most of his problems stem from not having money.

Gets stressed out so easily. Drained of energy. Gets tired easily. Needs so much sleep. Is super sensitive.

Hates Tony Robbins.

Has very “typical” perspectives about things.

Aways a victim.

Passive. Passive aggressive.

No fun.

We don’t share the same sense of humour.

We don’t like anything in common!

And yet, breaking up with him had been so soo soooo hard. So hard for both of us. I’ve been crying for 3 days now.

And I love him.

I love him now more than ever.

I want to mend his broken heart. I want to cuddle with him. I want to kiss him better. I want to make everything good again for him.

All of a sudden he is just flawless. He is just an angel.

Our breakup stemmed from me not getting sex. Now I don’t even get to touch him.

I miss touching him. I miss kissing him. I miss his smile. I miss smiling at him. I miss our first date.

I know I can’t be with him. But I wish I could. I wish we share the same dreams and can build an amazing world together.

Why isn’t he the one!?

Will I find my one? My soul mate? My true love?

Someone who make me laugh everyday and laughs at my jokes? Someone who inspires me. Someone who makes me a better person. I just love myself even more when I’m with him.

Someone who energizes me. Makes me think. Blows my mind sometimes.

Someone who is cheery, outgoing. full of surprises and wonder and joy.

Someone who is competent and can get the job done.

Someone who thrives in this world.

Someone who believes in love, loyalty, and honours them.

Looks like I have some new goals for myself. I can’t wait to meet my counterpart!