Manifest my husband

I’ve learned a lot from dating John and sexing Alex.

Basically, I want someone who is the best of John and Alex.

And most importantly, we love each other. We want each other equally much. We make each other happy. We make each other laugh! We bring out the best in each other. We enhance each other’s lives. We are great by ourselves, but we are a force when we are together!

What I want, that John and Alex don’t currently provide:

  1. Want me as much as I want him – physically and emotionally
  2. Will go the extra mile to do something for me – to make me happy, to take care of me, to make me feel desired
  3. Loves how I look without a wig as well, and shows it
  4. We are each other’s best friend
  5. Laughs at my jokes and makes jokes that I laugh about
  6. Attentive to my needs
  7. Emotionally available

What I like about John:

  1. Reliable
  2. Sincere
  3. Not greedy
  4. Has my best interest at heart
  5. Stable mood
  6. Great temperament
  7. Will keep himself in good shape
  8. Has athletic resilience
  9. Won’t cheat
  10. Doesn’t need/want kids

What I like about Alex

  1. Funny
  2. Smart
  3. Outgoing
  4. Great conversationalist
  5. Social
  6. Playful
  7. Good outlook on life and when facing challenges
  8. Up for trying new things
  9. Amazing sexual compatibility with me – physical and chemical
  10. Passionate in bed
  11. Has touch as a love language
  12. Competent
  13. Resilient
  14. High EQ
  15. Is a playmate (can do fun things together, I think)
  16. Good at marketing
  17. Good at biz

What I don’t like about Alex

  1. Not always reliable
  2. Can be moody
  3. Maybe: vindictive
  4. Wants to be covered in tattoos
  5. Wants kids (well, I like that but it’s not compatible with my future)
  6. Can cheat

What I don’t like about John

  1. Doesn’t like to touch nor being touched
  2. Doesn’t like to try new things
  3. Is not adventurous
  4. Gets hung up on the bad
  5. Health issues from sports injuries
  6. Isn’t social
  7. Isn’t a playmate

My Most __ Moments in Life

My Most Pivotal Moments in Life

  1. Moving to Canada with Mom at 13
  2. Choosing to go on extreme fat-free diet at 15
  3. Choosing to date Norm at 16 or so
  4. Quitting my job after reading 4-hour workweek at 28, 29
  5. Starting Knot Theory at 29
  6. Starting alopecia group at 30
  7. Going to Noveween party for the first time at 30 or so
  8. Coming out of alopecia closet at 32
  9. Buying the Amazon Amazing Seller course at 34 or so
  10. Choosing to date John at 38 or so
  11. Investing based on John’s tips at 39
  12. Going to mushroom northern lights night with Alex at 41

My Most Content Moments in Life

  1. In Alex’s arm on mushroom northern lights night
  2. After satisfying sex with Alex

My Most Painful Moments in Life

  1. Losing my hair
  2. Losing money to shopify options mishap
  3. Breaking up with Norm
  4. Breaking up in general (Nicolas, John)
  5. Being hurt by a fling (Patrick, Sam)

My Most Disappointed Moments in Life

My Most Meaningful and Happiest Moments in Life

My Most Meaningful and Happiest Moments in Life

  1. Mushroom and Northern Lights night with Alex, being in a caring group, laughing sooo much, being in Alex’s arms and feeling safe
  2. Lying on top of Alex while his dick was in me and he rubbed my pussy – it felt so good and I screamed so hard.
  3. Laughing and talking to Alex in bed
  4. Singing with Alex in bed
  5. Harrison Springs water island with Cyndi and Ty
  6. Camping with Cyndi and Ty – especially the steamy tent
  7. Burning Man – group night out, in that little church
  8. Burning Man – the big head, talking to nice strangers in line
  9. Cyndi and Tyler’s first Noveween – me in meat dress, meeting everyone, adored by everyone
  10. Sexy Street dance classes – so exhilarating
  11. Wild Rumpus – first day, wearing bunny ears, got separated from my group, joined strangers at table, people wearing hilarious costumes and being super friendly, speaker on the table, everyone sing, someone broke out in song and dance and danced on the table
  12. Coming out of alopecia closet on FB
  13. Fun sex night on my 40th (or 39th?) birthday with John when we wore bunny ears and he massaged me while having sex with me
  14. Time with Sam, putting each other into my suitcase, going on a date listening to his poetry and lying down on the shore of South Africa breakwater.
  15. Going on Dragon’s Den
  16. Having 14 orgasms with Matthew, flirting with him online, making out with him
  17. Patrick sex night when he asked to have sex with me not wearing a wig and  said he’s never been so turned on before
  18. Volcano hiking in Bali with Wifi Tribe (Debbie, Alex, Johan, etc)
  19. Discovering that my hotel in China was at Ling Ling circus, and that there’s a view of pandas and giraffes from my room!
  20. Seeing pandas for the first time at the Guangzhou Zoo
  21. That Food and Nudes foodie trip in Florence with Mom, meat and wine tasting, Mom getting a bit drunk and saying to the tour guide that she is the best. At butcher shop, tour guide gave us the postcard of a woman doing gymnastics off a man’s hard-on because steaks are a kind of viagra; Mom getting sprayed in alcohol sprits of some kind like it’s cologne in a wine shop.
  22. Houseboating – Under the sea night was really fun! Guests loved and adored us. We were so cool, having the biggest boat and such great outfits. I was a beautiful mermaid. On a little bit of mushroom. A cute guy (who had a girlfriend) was really into me.
  23. Machu Picchu – a dream come-true destination for me, so awe-inspiring, such great energy, and Mike was flirty
  24. First date with Matthew – at the pool talking for hours and suddenly felt really attracted
  25. Entering Vancouver Sun Halloween drawing contest at 15, drawing, feeling proud of my work, winning.
  26. Making steamed dumplings with cousins as a kid, laughing, being amazed and entertained by how the dumplings swell up.
  27. Drawing contest at the mall at age 8 or 9, using both hands to draw, people amazed at my ambidextrousness and artwork. Was drawing an escalator full of people
  28. Alpaca date with John
  29. Fiji – random encounters – lawyer from the US on set of Survivor (Matt White?), beach volleyball with the kids and having cava cava with their familiy
  30. Visiting all the unique sites with wifi tribe in Bali – playing with a bat,
  31. Climbing to the top of a dessert in Peru with Cyndi, to watch the sunrise.
  32. Seal kayak in South Africa with Robert was super fun; we laughed so much and the surprise seal that popped out of the air made me laugh!
  33. Putting on wetsuits and visiting the penguins in South Africa with Sam, Robert, Brian, and what’s her name from Hong Kong… was super fun. Sam and Brian matrix fighting in wet suit made us laugh. Penguins so amazing!
  34. Knot Theory getting traction. Selling like hotcakes. Feeling that I have finally arrived.
  35. Moving to my Spectrum 1 apartment. The BC Place is SO beautiful. My apartment is so beautiful. I’ve wanted this and finally got it. New beginning. Was planning to have lots of parties and small gatherings!
  36. Living in the basement temporarily with Hitomi and Mom; eating hotpot daily and sleeping on the floor, talking and laughing early in the morning when we woke up.
  37. Tony Robbins Fiji event – climbing onto the pole and jumping off it. Was a bit scary but I did it! And was the first girl to do it!
  38. Mushroom experience in Bali at the Gili T. island beachside was very memorable. My fave part was dancing with Sam, and making out. Also the interesting experience of mushroom: the bright geometric visuals when having my eyes closed, looking up at the colourful sky feeling so grand and that I came here to bring joy to the world, sparkles in the water, laughing and crying, the calm the next day of being able to stare into people’s eyes.
  39. Walking around at night in Seattle with Stan and Masha each in my arms, feeling high and very connected to them
  40. Visiting Mike and Lauren in Seattle; dance party at night, watching Mike’s video of his life’s antics, feeling well-hosted and getting closer to the hosts
  41. Jumping on a trampoline at Summer’s feeling so free and laughing so much.
  42. All the first dates and flings: Josh, getting closer to him, having sex, went to the beach and had more sex; had sex for 5 times in one day on another date
  43. Idriss: admiring his TED talk, flirting with him, kissing everywhere in Shanghai.
  44. Pat (?) Half east indian half swedish guy: dancing like we were one on the dance floor
  45. Nicolas: outdoor sex at UBC open field, his dick felt so good I remember wanting it to go on forever
  46.  Fin: first Tinder encounter. Was smelly first time, but after that it was fun. He was fun to spoon with. I think his dick was in me or between my legs the whole night
  47. Seeing octopuses chase each other and change colour
  48. Riding a mechanical bull at the beach in Thailand
  49. Floriding in Puket
  50. Soaring over California
  51. Riding down Cypress on a shower curtain with Cyndi and Amy!
  52. Finally have freedom money and passive income thanks to John, my initiatives, and covid.
  53. Collaborating with Ty on the ring tool
  54. Mike Evans making me laugh on the bus, acting out different accents
  55. Mom, Jing China trip – Xin Jiang rasin buying experience
  56. Designing, creating, brainstorming, dreaming about the future while anticipating something amazing to happen

Theme:

  1. Romanic encounter and development
  2. A rare adventure or first time experience; the more eye-opening the better
  3. Developing or deepening friendship and making amazing memories together
  4. Laughing a lot
  5. Interacting with cute animals; the more exotic the better
  6. Having a great time as a group
  7. Accomplishing something I’ve wanted / dreamt about (being successful in biz, visiting a dream place, moving to my dream place with my dream view)
  8. Feeling free (soaring, flying, getting big air, flowriding)
  9. Doing something that requires courage / stepping outside of my comfort zone (Dragon’s den, jumping off a pole, dancing)
  10. Creating things and being admired / appreciated for my creation (winning drawing contests, designing things that sell)

Wow, I feel so predictable! Like, my programming is so simple! Haha.

Bunny, Jumanji, Alex

Went to see Bunny last night. We had our Xmas dinner. He ordered some Yemenese chicken. It was ok. We watched Jumanji. It was not bad!

Then we cuddled. I took my clothes off and tried to get some nice cuddling time. Still not much from him. I feel that he just touches me out of obligation. He didn’t touch my boobs, didn’t grope my ass. Just rubbed my back and gave me some non-sensual lip and neck kisses.

I brought him celery juice I made, picked up his computer for him, and got him a ton of Costco groceries. I guess it’s in the name of me caring about him and him making a lot of money for me in stocks. But my heart is not in this anymore.

I like Alex. Even though, I don’t think he’s warmed up to me yet. I don’t think he is into me the same way I’m into him.

I was thinking back to our first time meeting. He wasn’t even interested in talking to me!

But now, we have such passionate sex and long conversations. It’s so fun.

He still talks about the kids he is gonna have, almost every time.

If he was a woman one would think this woman’s baby clock is totally ticking!

I hope that when we no longer have passionate sex we can still be good friends. Is that possible?

Or, I hope that we’ll always have passionate sex. But that seems unrealistic.

I was talking to Cyndi. Interestingly, she has a young guy and an older guy (our age) in her life too. Dylan and Nathan. They both love her! Aww..that’s nice. After so many years of neglect from Ty.

I also talked to Ty, about when we get old, if he sees himself as having a partner. He says, not necessarily. I tend to agree.

What’s the benefit of growing old with someone? Not a lot. I think it’s better to have a supportive community who love you and may care for you and will make your life fun, and may share the cost of senior care, and to have the money to pay for care.


After Nicole went home, I went to lie down and dream about Alex. I do that a bit too much. I just love being with him so much.

I love the sex, I love the touch, the passion. I love the laughs, sharing stories, sharing biz tips.

I love every moment with him.

 

Alex, Meaning of Life Question

Alex came over last night and we had amazing sex again. And great talks after.

I was not very horny all week because he cancelled on me last minute last week. He said he’d be on time at 5:30 this time. I messaged him at 5pm to confirm he is still coming before I got ready.

He was pretty on time! Only 10 minutes late.

I was a bit nervous and excited for some reason. Hadn’t seen him in 2 weeks.

I was wearing my Xmas lingerie. It’s not very well made, but it’s kinda funny. It’s red lace with white feather trim. It has an open crotch with a bow! I wore my Xmas socks too. And put on my Xmas flannel pajama top. It looked like I was bottom-less.

He came looking cute. He liked my flannel pajama top actually. Maybe even more than the sexy lingerie.

He asked if I missed him. I said maybe. Still a little mad about him cancelling on me last time. I asked if he missed me. He said of course.

We kissed for a while in the living room. I was definitely still so attracted to him even though he disappointed me last time.

We carried on in the bedroom. The moment he entered me, my mouth fell open and I moaned. Each time he enters me, I was so surprised at how amazing it feels.

We did all the usual positions. At one point I was on top, he breathed in a white feather from my outfit and sneezed! Hahahha

I laugh so much before, during, after sex with him all the time.

I told him his hair was so cute. He told me I was so beautiful. That’s nice. He doesn’t compliment me that much but when I compliment him he reciprocates.

All the positions felt so good. And our kisses were so passionate. It’s been two weeks after all… felt like ages.

He came pretty hard…his jizz shot so far it got on my face…maybe his too.

My uterus felt so happy and content after. I never feel this way with other guys.

We talked…though I think we’ve started to repeat ourselves a little bit when we talked about our childhood.

I always laugh so much when I’m with him. Actually I’m not entirely sure if he laughs just as much. He is a bit more stoic. Doesn’t smile much. Before the mushroom night, I was never able to tell if he liked me.

Also I’m not sure if he laughs at my jokes a lot…I’ll pay more attention next time. He makes me laugh though, that’s for sure. He was imagining how Billy from my ECF group would act, when I told him how Billy would continue to talk to me even when I was no longer in eye contact with him and was talking to someone else. “So I tripped over a crack and I thought, I need something to fill this crack. Then I thought, this could be my next Amazon product idea…” Ahahhaa

Before I knew it, we were getting it on again. I think he initiated it. I love that he can go again in like 5 minutes.

I wanted to try sitting up sex, but it didn’t work well in bed. It’s more of a sofa position. Then he asked if I wanted to try lying on top of him again. Last time I was holding myself up, and it didn’t quite work. This time I lied on up of him fully. He started playing with my clit while simultaneously thrusting from behind me….and omg….I moaned like crazy.

It felt so good. I’m not sure if it was the clitoral stimulation or the idea of him touching me like that… I got so wet. He was turned on by how wet I got.

I love moaning loudly because I think it turns him on. I love that I was quivering a bit. I love that I’d wrap my legs around his, and that we were so close together.

He finished with side pumps which is also my fave. Ahhh soo amazing. His dick feels so amazing in every position. I love his dick. I didn’t suck on it though. I will reward him with a blow job when he has been good.

With clitorial stimulation, I giggled so much after. I think I was high. He thought it was cute.

He was hungry and ordered some ramen with dip. It was past 9pm so I only ate a tiny bit. So cute how he always shares with me…tore half of his seaweed into my bowl, asked if I wanted a bite of his pork, and set aside a small bowl for me even though I said I’d just have a bite of his. He is so cute and sweet like that…

I needed to touch him always. I put a leg on his thighs. He put my other leg up on him and held me in his arms. I love that. He is very touch-oriented like me. Between sex I noticed he’d run his fingers over my skin. It felt so great.

I asked him the question, “Consider the past 3 months and describe one moment when you felt really good, like you were participating in something particularly meaningful.”

He said, without hesitation, the mushroom night. I was delightfully surprised. He goes out every weekend, and I wasn’t sure if he was doing something more fun and memorable.

His reason was not quite the same as mine though. He likes that it’s rare. It’s rare that we go outside and stare at the sky. He likes that it was spontaneous. He likes that I came out. He likes the simplicity of it. I dove deeper on why the simplicity was attractive to him. He said because his biz partner said he always over complicates things (in biz), and that his businesses are getting more and more complex. He is drawn to simplicity, simpler life, I think.

So, rare adventures, simple and natural events, simple life…these are the keywords I hear.

I could’ve dug deeper into, why I made it a very fun and meaningful moment, but I didn’t.

For Bunny, it was mindset (from me)

For Ty, it was doing something that is the first in history. (toonprov aka shitty zoom)

For Cyndi, it was community

For Nicole, it was act of kindness and being loved.

For me, it was doing something for the first time (new adventure), being in a group, and being loved/cared for by someone I’m attracted to.

These answers to the question are so accurate and insightful of the person’s values!

Imagine if Alex and I were to live in a community, and have lots of rare/travel adventures! If he was in WifiTribe with me, we’d be dating by now.

I was thinking recently that I had wanted to attract a boyfriend who is good at marketing, and height doesn’t matter. I had wanted to be friends with a lot more people, and from there, develop friendship, and eventually when I’m single, pick out a boyfriend from my guy friends..

It’s amazing how close this has turned out the way I wanted. I’ve manifested this!

It’s not quite exactly…he is not my boyfriend, and he wants kids..A LOT! He talks about kids every time.

I need to strengthen my manifesting powers!

I’m grateful though. It’s been SO FUN being with him. SOOO FUN. It’s soul nourishing. It’s life-giving. It’s exhilarating. I love him.

We talked about business a bit. That’s always fun too. He told me about getting a line of credit to grow my biz. I just might!

As he was leaving, he said, “See you next week?” I said yes but let me know if you’re gonna cancel…but then I remembered that I’m going to Victoria next weekend. So, it’ll be two weeks. Sigh.

We kissed so much before he left. Miss him already.

He is prolly going to Mexico in January, and is for sure going to Japan for 2 months in April. Ugh. I want him always…

He is so special to me. I wonder if he finds me to be so special too. I hope we’ll always be this fond of each other, this passionate, and increasingly romantic!

 

12X business revenue and profit in 2022

I can do it and I want to do it!!!!

YES!

I want to reach $10MM because that will give me even more freedom haha.

I want to reach $10MM because that will help me gain some street cred on ECF! I want to find a husband on ECF 😀

I want to reach $10MM because I want to make as much money as possible while young. I want to reach $100MM before I retire. I want to have more money than my cousins who will get lots of inheritance.

Of course, health and love come first. Great health, great love, and a wealth level that range from very comfortable to life-changing and world-changing!

Strategy:

  1. Increase each tier’s performance:
    1. Traffic 3x
      1. More ads – IG/FB, reels, etsy, google shopping
        1. Create brand that looks like YSL(?) and target their audience
        2. Gather a list of brands that look like YSL(?0
      2. v Hire FB advert staff in-house or get an agency
      3. Influencer seeding – try it ourselves first, then if want, try it with Kynship.
      4. Collaborations
        1. product co-creation for brands/influencers with passionate fans
        2. brand-collab with brands who have similar audience
      5. Etsy: increase ad spend to double
    2. Conversion rate 2x
      1. More reviews
      2. Easier to find rings
      3. Better FAQ layout and content to answer all questions
      4. Chat bot perhaps
      5. Create niche-specific landing pages (also good for SEO and ads marketing)
      6. Etsy: Free shipping, upselling, and FAQ info in listing images
    3. AOV (Average Order Value)
    4. CLV (Customer Lifetime Value) 2x
      1. Membership?
      2. Subscription?
      3. More email promos / customer engagement
    5. Rate of returning customer
      1. Same as above
    6. Rate of rescuing abandoned cart
      1. Cuter rescue email?
    7. Email opt-in rate
      1. A/B test different pop up forms
      2. Learn from the best
  2. Branding
    1. Dark theme! Make it cool. But still eco (with a splash of green plants, or natural stone) and fun (maybe real cats etc) and worldclass. Try some new ring designs to see how it’ll fit
    2. Design 2 amazing IG grids with very intentional purpose for each image (what brand feel we want the visitors to get, what product questions we want to answer, what hero products we want them to see, what curiosity to intrigue, what )
    3. IG highlight with reviews etc
    4. Lots of reel content from influencers or a hired content generator
  3. SEO
    1. Always updating website homepage and adding blog articles
    2. v RankHarvest – focus on engraving, customization, v day
    3. Articles
    4. Meta https://www.shopify.com/blog/how-to-write-meta-descriptions
  4. Better email marketing
    1. Which sender to use (Shopify email or Klaviyo or Pabbly?)
    2. Build journeys – better welcome, follow-up, etc
  5. Set 90 day goals, 6 month goals, and 1 year goal. Weekly goals too!
  6. Actively network, contribute (give), and ask questions (take)
  7. Spend 1 day a week to learn and implement new things/improve SOP/improve efficiency, etc.
  8. Take weekends off to socialize!

Goals:

  1. One Year:
    1. 12X our revenue
    2. Have a SODA’d operation with local and virtual teams
  2. 6 Month:
  3. 3 Month:

Improve our capacity:

  1. Hire 1 more VA, perhaps from Eastern Europe
  2. Move to a warehouse
  3. Get a second engraver machine
  4. Train a second engraver
  5. Start using Wizmo and DesktopShipper

What to do about Amazon?

  1. Replace Sellerlabs with Zontools (or whatever that other thing is called)
  2. See if we can replen FBA
  3. Launch Foxfire.
  4. Remove all bad inventory (B4, B6, Rose Gold, high return items) – if we can send more inventory in
  5. Get good reviews
  6. Downvote bad reviews
  7. Regular release of new listings
  8. Regular release of engraved listings

Local inventory:

  1. We need to QA all inventory so the person fulfilling the orders always fulfills with good inventory only
  2. Wall organization when we move to new space
  3. Dump all bad or old inventory

Products:

  1. Create new moulds for Bevel
  2. Create new moulds for CF with less flow line effect
  3. Create new moulds for CF with inside grooves for Amazon (under Foxfire or KT brand)

Etsy:
2020: 2.3X sales ($85K), 70% growth in traffic (1.7X), 22% growth in conversion, 2X orders
2021: 3X sales ($250K), 188% growth in traffic (2.8X), 14.5% drop in conversion, 2.5X orders, higher AOV because of engraving. Growth started in June.

Shopify:
2021: 2X sales ($150K), 18% growth in traffic only, 2X conversion rate (2.55%). Growth started in June too.

I think engraving started catching on in June! Started in Feb. Probably took 4 months to get ranked on Google?

We can expect more competition this year, but we can also expect higher revenue from a full year of engraving!

$400k sales from these two sites in 2021. Can expect at least $1MM in sales in 2022 I think, just from having engraving offer for the full year. But we want to amp it up and grow to beyond that! At least $2MM! I think we can do $4MM if we aim for $10MM. Or we can do $10MM!!

 


In general, there are SO many things to focus on. So, which should we do first?

  1. Clear Goal: Grow 12x while operating smoothly – good customer experience, good team experience.
  2. Minimal effort, maximum result
  3. Pave the foundation for massive expansion -automation, staff, warehouse

Things that we can do to boost sales:

  1. Etsy – better listing images with clear return policies, free shipping etc (estimated $2000/month revenue increase)
  2. RankHarvest SEO (estimated $2000/month revenue increase)
  3. FB and IG ads (estimated $10,000/month revenue increase)
  4. Send out more emails (estimated $1000/month revenue increase)
  5. Create more email journeys
  6. Increase Etsy ad budget (estimated $2000/month revenue increase)
  7. Influencer seeding
  8. Collaborations with influencers
  9. Better IG feed, and reuse this better content in ads, blogs, landing pages, etc. (estimated $800/month revenue increase)
  10. More IG reels and stories (estimated $200/month revenue increase)
  11. Launch more engraving designs (estimated $2000/month revenue increase)
  12. Launch gold fill on all designs (estimated $500/month revenue increase at first)
  13. Launch 2 tier rings (estimated $500/month revenue increase at first)
  14. Launch more colours e.g. pale gold
  15. Renew Amazon inventory and be able to sell FBA again
  16. Import / add more reviews to Shopify esp. ones with images too  (estimated $500/month revenue increase at first)
  17. Hire someone to write seasonal and useful and high search volume low competition articles, to boost our ranking (estimated $500/month revenue increase at first)
  18. Hire the same person to do the same for our niche-specific landing pages

Estimated $22,000/month increase

That’s $264K/year increase.

We want a month to month traffic, conversion, frequency, and AOV report

To boost ring productivity:

 


Goals:

January: 
– FB ads management start

  1. DesktopShipper set up
  2. Hire RankHarvest
  3. Do a high end photoshoot
  4. Launch motivational rings
  5. Launch gold filled rings
  6. Launch 2-layered rings
  7. Feature and launch Valentine’s Day rings
  8. Look for a warehouse to rent
  9. Teach VA to clean up old orders
  10. Clean up our inventory
  11. Start on new moulds with Fred (bevel cf)
  12. Train Faroo
  13. App can take new fonts
  14. Taxes

February:
– Envelopes arrive

  1. Hire another VA from Eastern Europe
  2. Continue to look for warehouse to rent if not found yet
  3. Train a new fulfillment and engraving staff
  4. Boost Etsy conversion
  5. Launch horoscope designs

March:

  1. Influencer seeding with wedding season in mind, possibly with Cody
  2. Move into new warehouse March 1st, ideally.
  3. Buy a second engraver

April:
– 20,000 envelopes arrive, hopefully goes straight to warehouse

May:

  1. Launch Summer designs
  2. Summer collabs
  3. Summer photoshoot

June

July

August

September

  1. Start Xmas influencer seeding
  2. Promote Halloween rings
  3. Xmas photoshoot

October

  1. Add Xmas listings to Etsy

November

  1. Start promoting for Xmas in first week, leading up to Black Friday (25th)

December

His Secret Obsession: what’s your meaning of life?

Page 118

Consider the past month and describe one moment when you felt really good, like you were participating in something particularly meaningful.

You then ask him what made it feel meaningful. You ask why it felt good.


The past month the one moment I felt really good was when I was on mushroom with Alex and his friends. He had his arms around me, and we were laughing super hard.

Why did it feel meaningful? Why did it feel good?

It felt amazing being in his arms. I felt safe, protected. He would make sure that everything is gonna be ok for me that night because he cared.

It felt good because we were laughing. I love and miss having a group of friends.

It felt good because I loved the touch, and how I felt so close to Alex. And it was exciting, because I was becoming attracted to him. And I know that he was attracted to me too. And we were both so horny.

It felt good because in the group I have a “boyfriend” who is the cutest and smartest in the group, who likes me and is holding me. I love that so much. It makes me feel loved. It makes me feel like I’m getting special attention. Extra love. Extra attentiveness.

It’s meaningful because this feeling is the essence of happiness for me.

It’s also meaningful because we are experiencing something new (the northern lights, new friends, higher mushroom dose or this particular strain of mushroom) and building friendship.

Love, touch, intimacy, friendship, group friends, laughter, new experiences, adventure.

I need to find a boyfriend like that.

I need to find a group of friends like that.

We need to do fun adventures.

Sad about Alex being a flake; Bunny in a better mood

Ugh…

I was so into Alex. And we had such a build up towards the weekend…

Then he bailed on me last minute.

That’s the second time in the past 4 weeks. So basically I only see him once every 2 weeks, just like with Matthew. And there’s a 50% chance of him cancelling on me last minute.

On one hand I’m not surprised. On one hand I’m so disappointed. On another hand I’m kinda hoping it wouldn’t be a regular thing….but, he doesn’t have the best track record in general…I kinda knew that since he always missed his flights.

What happened was that he drove over a nail and his tire blew. He said he’d need to fix that and then he’d uber to me if he had to, to get to my arms (strange way to put it…I felt like the protective figure….the big spoon).

That was 1pm. 6 hours later, after much back and forth of me telling him how much I wanted him, and him being quite convincing that he’ll come…he said he ate some fried chicken and was in a food coma. WTF!

I was so upset.

He said he was also moody from the car issue.

I said we both go through a lot of stress in life/biz, and I thought he was the type of person to take stresses in stride. His tire blew and they can’t fix it…that’s enough to bring him down so much that he can’t see me???

And to get into a food coma???

I was so wet earlier, and was so turned off after this.

He said he when he is with me he wants to give me all of his attention and he just couldn’t that day.

Putting it that way helped, but I was still sad.

In a way I get it. Guys are less resilient. They can’t take stress as well (except for extreme cases such as Elon Musk). I think if we were to find an average, girls take stresses better than guys, but there are more outliers in guys.

I didn’t respond to his last message. We’ll see. I hope it works out well.

Went to see Bunny today. He was expecting me to visit him yesterday (Saturday). I didn’t realize I committed to that…I was planning to meet with Alex. I was also busy working, so Bunny said it’s fine if we meet today (Sunday), which would’ve been great if I got to meet Alex. Instead, I was actually working all night.

Bunny and I haven’t met up on weekends in a while, so, I was actually surprised that he wanted to see me. I saw him during the week already.

I think he is feeling better the past 2 days. Talked to some of this friends, and wanted me to visit. When I went, he had a smile on his face. Haven’t seen that in a while. He said the mushroom helped lift his mood too.

He was so distraught and hopeless just last week.

Part of me feels like at a higher consciousness level, he was in deep sorrow because I was hooking up with Alex. And when in the past two days Alex disappointed me and we are not great anymore, Bunny felt better. It’s probably not the case, but, I felt that way.

Sometimes I surprise myself at how I don’t feel very guilty about all this.

I can totally have sex with both Bunny and Alex and not feel guilty. Except, Alex has my attention. I like being with him so much.

I was still horny around Bunny today. He was a bit more touchy, but still not even touching my boobs. I was a little upset and got up to leave. But I managed to hide my sadness mostly, reminding myself that he’s already improved today.

He ordered some really yummy chicken shwarma for us, and we watched South Park post covid special – sooo good, so brilliant. That was really uplifting. That’s something Alex and I can’t bond on.

We then watched an episode of Price is Right from 1976. It was hilarious!

Then we cuddled. I was topless (wearing pants cuz of period). Bunny was in knee pain again…every time we lie down to sexy cuddle he is in pain. Made me roll my eyes… but he was almost in tears so… not his fault. He rubbed my back a bit. So little action compared to what Alex and I have done.

When I was leaving, he did give me a decent kiss. But, I probably didn’t seem as appreciative as he thought I would be. I mean, no sex for 8 months. No making out. No nothing. A kiss isn’t gonna be enough. Also I prefer Alex’s lips. They are smaller and smoother, and felt like the same size as mine.

Physically it’s as though Alex and I are made for each other. I think chemically too. Being around him is just so uplifting. I’m always so happy. That’s why he is so addictive. That’s why I’m so into him.

When he said he wants to give me his full attention when he is around me, I didn’t realize it’s a conscious thing. I give him my full attention naturally…

Bunny’s dick never felt as good, except for that one time on my birthday.  Strange because their dicks look very similar. Similar size and girth.I pretty much have forgotten how Bunny’s dick feels…but it wasn’t like Alex’s dick. It sometimes hurts. Alex’s dick, when it enters me, I felt like a mac laptop booting up. I literally turn on.

Alex aka Mochi Bun Bun

Decided to give each other nicknames.

What turned me on the most was he said “my” sexy bunny. Oh my. I was so wet from that.

Also he use red heart emojis with me for the first time <3 <3

In general he is not very good at saying sexy things to me (he would lead by ask me about work), but the important part is that he puts effort in haha. At least, some effort.

And according to that book I read (His Secret Obsession), I need to find a way for the guy to be able to “win”. I’ve been keeping that in mind.

I’m a bit doubtful that this book will be as effective as it claims (by letting the guy be the hero), but, we shall see. If I told Alex that he “rescued” me from being almost dead inside because of my sexless relationship, would that make him feel like a hero?

So far I’ve been doing lots of things right, by chance. Like asking him to help me with brand advice.

Then again, nothing changes in the fact that he wants kids and I am in a relationship. What happens if we go too deep?

Well, I’ll think about it when it comes to that. He is going to Japan in April. Who knows what will happen then. Who knows how long this will last.

For right now, I am SO attracted to him. Everything about him. I don’t think I’ve ever been so attracted to someone. Maybe Matthew. 14 orgasms is still the record. I like that he always let me have as many orgasms as I wanted and then he’d finish. Alex comes faster than I’d like, but we talk and laugh, and have sex again sometimes. Alex is the type to date with sincerity I think. Even though we are not a couple, we both act somewhat like we are. There’s no other way.

I’ve been masturbating so much, it’s almost impacting work. I need to remember that this ain’t no time to slack. Do some good work and ask him lots of questions! This is a great opportunity.

But the orgasms I get from thinking about him…wow…so good. I’d lie there, in a bliss soup, imagining the conversations we’d have. I doubt he is THAT into me. I’m a little obsessed.

Why is that? I don’t know. Something about him….or just my lack of comparable experience in my entire life. Someone who is smart, funny, playful, fun, successful in biz, perfect size, great in bed….this has never happened before.

White meat doesn’t even turn me on much anymore. Not Asians either. Only him. I’m under his spell.

Then again, I still think Bunny is very hot. And I kissed him yesterday. And I think if he’d touch me in a sexy way I’d still be turned on. I wanted to have sex with him yesterday. I was so horny. But, he was not.

For that, I think it’s fair that I have steamy sex with Alex.

And I’m grateful for Alex being in my life (as long as he makes me happy not sad haha).

He kept saying “can’t wait”, but we haven’t figured out when we’re meeting up. Sometimes it’s all very last minute with him.

 

 

Etsy, VA, Alex, Bunny

Yesterday was a tough day and I cried.

Etsy put us in vacay mode. Ella ghosted and didn’t work for 2 days. DesktopShipper still wasn’t working. Mom needed help setting up IBKR wire.

But at the end of the day I realized I had way more to be grateful for. I think I also cried because of how I’m in a sexlationship with Alex, which is a dead end because he wants kids. And in a relationship with Bunny, which is also a dead end because he is not a good match.

Bunny was having a hard day yesterday too. Sigh. I want him to heal. Poor baby. I prayed for him.

Didn’t talk to Alex yesterday. Thought about him though. Missed kissing him. The most memorable thing he said last time was “Did you…like..miss me?” and the most memorable thing he did was wanting to hear me sing and actually sang with me. He is so adorbs.

I’m not quite as horny as the first 4 weeks haha….but still very horny. On Monday his car got broken into so I kinda felt like he wasn’t thinking about me. I think we are good since last we talked so I wasn’t as “attached”.

Today (Wednesday) he messaged me. That was nice. He just says “Heyyaa! Hows ya sunny day today? Ring factory caught up on orders?”

He’s not very romantic when messaging…

I said we needed nicknames so we can stop calling each other heyyaa. He said he’d call me Bunny Hops, or just Bunny.

Well….that’s fine. I can’t think of a better name for me.

I can’t call him Bunny though…

I said I can be Bunny and he can be Hops. Or Pablo (the name he gave my polar bear purse)..or Mochi (the name I was gonna give my polar bear purse). He chose Mochi haha.

We exchanged work updates.

I said I wanna kiss him so bad. But then I made the mistake of saying right away that I wanted to kiss his dick too.

He got all hard on that second part. Didn’t say anything about kissing me.

But overall we good. Now we have nicknames for each other.

Sometimes I feel that we’re just paving way to date some day. But then it’s not for marriage.

But maybe I don’t want marriage anyway….I don’t know. I like the idea of finding each other to be the only one for each other. But I think sex will get boring eventually.

Maybe we’ll be bored of each other sexually eventually. Who knows. Then it wouldn’t hurt so bad to let it go.

But I think there’s something undeniable. We fit each other perfectly physically. Our hugs are perfect. His dick fits me perfectly. We’re both passionate and sexual.

Mentally and personality wise we seem to be a pretty good fit too. We both laugh at the same things often. We are biz oriented. We are driven and ambitious. We love sex, cuddles, pillow talks. We are pretty outgoing. Pretty adventurous and curious.

I think he is more of a partier and drinker. And he lives at home. And he loves tattoos. And he loves being on-trend (hanging with 20 somethings). He wants to have kids. I think these are places where we can diverge.

And I know we will eventually….but right now, it’s so good. Right now, it’s amazing actually.