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ECF Amazon Mastermind was great. Members are mostly power sellers. Very friendly. Biggest thing I learned was to add “Amazon custom” because Amazon does drive a lot of sales!

ECF Vancouver meeting was SO much fun omg. Because of Jackson. I really like him. He is funny.

Bill was so much more likeable this time! He has done so much in his life, and he is always eager to learn and to network. These are traits of a forever-young mind.

He arranged for us to meet up at eComSquare coworking. We got to meet Steve, the co-owner of the place. it’s such a cool place. 2 floors and they can add a 3rd! If I had that I’d make it my dream house!

I think that’s what I want – a building! Maybe surrounded by a garden.

David is really sweet too. He is very transparent. I like him too.

Jackson, David, and Steve all have Asian girlfriends/wives. Interesting!

It was April 8, the day that the vax pass dropped (within Canada). Still can’t fly, but can go to restaurants. Jackson suggested that we hang out that day cuz of me. Aw that’s sweet.

We were gonna go to Earls, but I’m so glad that we went to Feel City BBQ instead.

It was such a fun time. Laughing at toasts on sticks, lamb on harpoons/javelin, chicken and chicken knees mixed together for a chicken roulette. Talking about biz, tennis, Jackson’s brother, alopecia.

I think working so hard to be successful – it’s just to be able to hang out with smart, hardworking, successful fun people!

Jackson wanted to play credit card roulette, which resulted in him and Bill paying for me and Dave haha.

I really like Jackson. He is even funnier than Alex in some ways. But, Alex has a nice body, and…Alex has a face that I’m more drawn to. And Alex has a sexual energy to him.

Brian I like too. Not sure if he is funny, but learned today that he is a professional dancer (breakdancing)! Holy shit! That makes him so much more attractive! But also, he might be gay…most likely haha. That would be good actually…maybe meet some straight guys through him!

Would like to see more ECF members in Vancouver…especially cute guys!

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That night, I was feeling pretty good. I can still have a great time and laugh lots without Alex, without sex. That’s good to know and experience.

I decided to masturbate while reminiscing about having sex with Alex, thinking that I’m ready to do it now without crying.

Nope. Right after I orgasmed, I still cried. Cried so hard.

I cried and talked my thoughts out loud. I don’t remember doing so with such clarity and eloquence before. It was actually very healing.

As I listened to my thoughts spoken out loud, I understood better my pain.

I just wanted that amazing feeling to stay the same, to last. It wasn’t a reasonable ask, because nothing lasts forever.

Sometimes I have this feeling that he misses me too, especially when I suddenly miss him. I feel like he is missing me, which in turn made me miss him. Like we are telepathically connected.

I may or may not be romanticizing us, but, it makes me feel better so I’m going to believe that.

I honestly can’t think of a scenario that will cause him to reach out to me, or a scenario that it would be a good idea for us to hook up again. But part of me thinks that, if it is meant to happen, it’ll happen. Maybe it’ll be decades from now. I hope we’ll still be reasonably hot haha…and be able to have the same passionate and romantic sex.

 

 

After about 2 months of feeling super sad over Alex, I feel that I’m finally catching up on things.

Still sad, but more functional.

Sigh.

Even this morning I woke up thinking about him.

I thought about if there’s at all possible a scenario that he’ll reach out to me. I can’t think of any.

Usually in a movie if something is this good, there’s a sequel, a trilogy.

But this is real life. I likely won’t see him again. And if I do, it won’t be on good terms. Not steamy sex, romantic making out, and intimate pillow talks. I wish we could have all this, but I don’t think so.

Most recent feeling is kinda negative towards him. Like subconsciously I’m going through a healing journey. I’ll reach peace at some point. All the exes mean nothing to me now. Soon Alex will be too.

I guess he was there just to open my mind up about short Asian guys.

Now I don’t even have a type. I don’t know what I find attractive anymore. I guess anything goes.

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Bunny finally found a chiro that might be able to help him. That’s such amazing news!

I’m one step closer to being free.

We’ve been a bit closer now. Talking on the phone for an hour or more each night.

When I think about it, he helped me make over $2MM. He’s been the most helpful person in my life, financially.

For some reason I have little confidence in him when we set the TV up. And I sort of don’t admire him in trading… but I have no idea why. I trusted him enough to have him manage my money, and to have invested in what he recommended 2 years ago…but I’m not admiring him…why is that?

In contrast, I admired Alex. Always have. Maybe because I have a better idea of how hard it is to run a successful business?

Maybe if Alex was helping me install the TV I wouldn’t have trusted him on that either?

Everyone has strengths in different arenas.

I need to learn to respect and admire Bunny more.

He IS smart in some ways. His brain is compromised, yet he can still be smart, so he must be quite smart.

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I still bow to my gods every morning and night – Goddess of Compassion, God of Wealth, God of Health, a gold yuanbao, a casual-Goddess-of-Compassion, and my love necklace.

Things have shifted a bit for me now though, after I learned about the concept of 9 dimensions and the God within ourselves. God is the sum of parts…and we are the parts. But in time we become god. And in dimensions where there is no time, we are God.

Now I feel that God isn’t this warm and loving being…God is a humongous being, and we are a cell. Or even smaller…an organelle within a cell. We are soooo small.

But I want to believe that God is this warm and loving being…that we are taken cared of. That there are no mistakes, no regrets, no guilt, no blames – only deeper understanding and learning and evolution.

I suppose just because I’m not aware of all my cells, and not warm and loving towards each organelle in my cells, it doesn’t mean that God is like that to us. God could be much more aware than we are. And maybe we are much more aware than we know we are 🙂

I need to remember that at the root of all this is LOVE.

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The Mom show is very interesting. The grandma, who is 51, lead a life of not trusting men & addiction after her boyfriend of 2 years disappeared on Xmas eve, right after she gave birth.

Knowing that people do walk out on their partners, this isn’t just dramatized fiction. The fact that she couldn’t hold her life together after that makes so much more sense now.

I have so much more compassion for that just because Alex ghosted me. It wasn’t nearly the same, but gosh, I get an inkling of how traumatizing this would’ve been for her! Enough to fuck a person up for life!

 

Turned 42! The meaning of life!

Goals for this year:

1. Learn 1 dance a month
2. Expand and deepen friendships

Bunny took me on an all day date. It was nice.

First, he showed up with beautiful flowers and a tub of peanut butter and chocolate ice cream! Then we went to Lynn Valley for a quick hike. Then we went to Jericho Beach Park to see the bunnies!

Bunny is kind of a bunny whisperer haha. He got a baby bunny to be so close to us, and as we were leaving, he whistled at some bunnies and they all came running over!

The baby bunny was standing/sitting on her hind legs sometimes like a Disney bunny haha. So cute.

Then we went to Boba Run and got a dalgona bubble tea just before they closed. Then, we got chicken waffles from Le Coq Frit, my fave!

Then we came back to my place and Bunny helped me set up the TV.

I got quite frustrated at him several times….but eventually we got it.

The LG 65″ OLED TV, C1 series – current best TV, $2100 – is now mounted on my pillar.

We sat on the sofa and marvelled at the stunning picture quality for a while.

Bunny was feeling pretty shitty physically and went home. I’m grateful that he made all this effort for me.

Still it’s not nearly as fun as a night with Alex. And god knows I still miss him so.

Today, day after my bday, I’m still missing him so much. Still thought of him as I masturbated and still cried.

This period was 3 days late, but it was one of my best ones. Not too heavy. I wonder if it’s the celery juice! 4 months into this now.

Today, Bunny went to see a new chiro. Michael Foran, a nucca chiro.

For the first time, Bunny was happy with a chiro and there’s evidence that he is good! Bunny showed me a paper folio of all the charts and diagrams and data on his spine alignment and temperature! It was incredible!

I’m SO happy for him!!

My wish has come true haha. Bunny is on the path of wellness!

I hope he feels much better in 6 weeks as the chiro predicts. Usually feel a difference in 3 weeks.

God has been kind to me. I’m so grateful.

I was talking to Mom today and telling her how many biz owners don’t take a profit for years. I’m so lucky that I’ve been able to take a profit because the profit margin for rings is so great.

Today I barely worked. I think I had too much sugar yesterday. And setting up the TV was mega stressful.

But I think tomorrow is going to be a great new start!

I’m looking forward to being productive. I’m looking forward to dancing, singing, laughing, spending more time with friends, and scaling the biz with dual layered rings! So exciting!!!!

Wow. I’ve been talking to Cyndi often lately, and discovered the “dismissive avoidant” attachment type by chance.

Cyndi learned that she is a fearful avoidant last year. She shuts down when she is afraid of getting hurt.

Her behaviour can be so unpredictable and hurtful to the guys.

I asked her how it started. She said when she was 5, her parents woke up up and told her that mommy and daddy don’t love each other anymore, and that she had to choose who to go with. It was such a shock to her, because her parents never fought in front of her and Tina. Her dad, this amazing guy, cheated on her mom with her best friend. That was also a shock.

I thought about how the shock was the most traumatizing part. It came totally as a surprise.

I thought about how that’s why I was so traumatized by Alex’s silence. We had so much fun, laughing, making out, making love….and just like that, he ghosted me. It was completely unexpected.

I figured that for someone to do this to someone else, they must’ve had it done to them. So I looked up avoidant attachment, and discovered that he is a textbook dismissive avoidant. Wow.

It was, in some ways, comforting because now I feel that he shut down because he was starting to develop feelings for me, not because he doesn’t care about me.

On the other hand, it also means he needs therapy, and that I can never date him….well, that’s nothing new because he wants kids…so I guess nothing was lost…aside from the 2 months of fun and the bittersweet parting sex that we could’ve had today or yesterday.

Part of me wants him to not ever find the one to start a family with, give up on the idea of families, get therapy, and be with me.

He is the best I’ve ever had in every way. Funnest, best in bed. Smart, successful. I was so drawn to him. I was smitten with him I was in love, more than I ever have in my 42 years of life.

But, he’ll just be a small part of my life. A memory.

Sigh.

I’m better now though. I’m pulling my pieces together.

 

 

Yie yie – Bio Grandpa on Dad’s side – Thank you for your smart genes, your quirkiness

Agong – Grandpa on Dad’s side – Thank you for being kind

Amma – Grandma on Dad’s side – Thank you for your smart and beauty genes, and that you’ve always been kind to me, never sexist.

Ah-Gong – Grandpa on Mom’s side – Thank you for your smart genes, artistic genes, playfulness, innocence, kindness, generosity, wealth legacy.

Apple – Grandma on Mom’s side – Thank you for your smart genes, determination & perseverance, generosity, unconventional style, laughs

Aunt Martha – Thank you for your art influence, your nurturing and non-judging style, your encouragement, your kindness

Da Jiou Jiou – Thank you for your kindness, your calmness, your non-judgement and generosity, for playing with us.

Xiao Ah Yi – Thank you for your unconventional wittiness and high EQ and acceptance. Thank you for your love and care and sincerity.

Gu Po – Thank you for giving me a big chicken thigh one time hahaha. I appreciate your spunk of trading and singing even in your 80s.

 

I’m so sad today.

Last night … well 4am I finally messaged Alex, telling him how I was not ok with him ghosting me. I was shaking.

Today I heard back.

Basically he said that he thought I was trying to take this relationship too seriously and asking him to commit. So he distanced himself.

In reality I asked him to try to make an effort to see me twice a week as he said he’ll do. That’s all.

I kinda knew he was a fucker like that. A flake. A dead beat.

But today it was confirmed.

I’m balling my eye out even more.

But, at least now I feel more ready to move on.

John had to comfort me a little, ironically. I told him I was sad cuz Alex ghosted me.

I’m sad that John is so sick and not good in bed and unfun to be around…. I wish he was the one for me. I wish, most of all, that he is healthy and happy. And loving himself.

Lessons:

1. Don’t hook up with unreliable, flakey people.
2. Don’t hook up with people bad at confrontation
3. If they have to be asked to put you on a reminder alarm to message you, nope
4. Be as clear as possible about being on the same page e.g. end date

I mean, in some ways, I’m glad I had those memories, those good sex experiences. I just wish it was with someone as sincere and reliable as John.

I will get over this.

One day in the near future, John is gonna be healthy and happy. And I’ll have lots of friends. And I’ll meet my soulmate. And I hope the John will meet his soulmate.

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I just showered, and still felt so much sadness.

Sad that I’m turning 42 in 8 days, and still have not experienced love, experienced being spoiled and courted and showered in love gestures.

Sad that John has me stuck in the most boring relationship.

Sad that Alex turned out to be an inconsiderate asshole.

Sad that most likely he never felt as deeply for me. Though, who knows. Maybe him trying to move away from me is because it hurts him. But I doubt it. I think he finds me overbearing and asking too much. That should’ve been my queue. The fact that I had to chase him down to see me. Then again, he did try. So, all in all, I think I tried my best. Would I have done it differently? Probably nothing. It was as it was.

I can’t change to become less passionate. Or to become ok with someone who flakes out. Or to be ok with ingenuity. Or to be silent about it all.

A part of me wished that I could tap into my higher self and not be sad. But, I don’t see how.

I am human. I have feelings.

I guess I can be an observer of my feelings instead of being too impacted by them.

I will find love. I will.

I will radiate love. I will be giving, kind, happy, joyful, radiant, glowing, magical. I will enjoy having several lovers until I find the one I want to be monogamous with.

I just remembered that the fortune teller said I’ll always have peach flowers. That means, there will be more good guys coming into my life. I gotta truly believe it, visualize it, and embrace it.

 

 

 

Ok! It’s taken me a while to write this because I’ve been in a low mood, but, it’s getting better each day. Plus, there are some cool stuff that has happened!

The low mood cause is, of course, Alex. I still am puzzled by how he can just ghost me, but the pain is subsiding. Time will heal it I’m sure.

If he behaves like this, he is not a good guy for me anyway. I try not to judge this behaviour. I try to forgive and just be grateful.

The other thing is, John. We are a bit better these days. Fewer fights. But, he is so sick…and today he said it’s just been getting worse. It doesn’t help that the world status is cray cray right now, with the war between Russia and Ukraine happening and Omicron lockdown in China. It makes the stock market super volatile, which really impacts him, understandably. Nobody really knows what’s going on in the world.

I really want him to feel better. Unselfishly and selfishly.

Now for the good news:

I’m learning about our Universe, the 9 dimensions, and our consciousness – and it’s fascinating! I discovered Matias de Stephano. He is such a gem. What he talks about just feels right. It’s similar (but different) to what I have felt. That feeling of missing home. That feeling of being pure bright energy together with other energy beings and feeling happy and loved.

Some neutral news:

Office
Office set-up is on-going. Sometimes I’m really fed up with Nicole being so dumb and dramatic. But sometimes I’m grateful of her being on the careful side. Alyssa is fine too. Not sure how fast she is, but she is decently smart.

We are still adding more office items. Something to tape up the windows with. Get a fridge that works. Get some Kallax shelves.

It’s been 1.5 months at the new office and we’ve been setting up quite nicely I think.

I’m sure one day I’ll look back on all this fondly 🙂

Social Life
I’ve been gone to Lisa’s twice now, for poker. It’s ok fun. These people are really just so so. But, it’s some socializing! And most are not vaxxed. I think Lisa’s husband Nathan is decently smart. Just kinda white-trashy haha.

Been closer to Cyndi because of our love/sex lives. It’s nice. I learn a lot from her. She uplifts people. She attracts people because of it.

I wish she wasn’t brain damaged…but hopefully she’ll heal and be able to work on Knot Theory marketing one day.

Ty has been so distant…we rarely hang out and he replies to my messages sometimes a week or more later. He really broke Cyndi’s heart too, especially recently, when he had his lawyer send her an agreement to buy her half of Tybot for $60.

This makes me think that people with hyperfocus (Ty and Alex) just do whatever they want to do, and ignore other people’s feelings. Two of my fave guys in the world. Sigh.

Been chatting often with Mark. He is my new fave guy friend. AND, we have the same bday!

I’ll organize some get-togethers with the ECF group, Jessica and Darlene, etc. Maybe invite Mark to something too.

It’s my bday coming up…but I think I won’t be hosting a party. Can’t wait for April 8 – will sign up for a dance class!

1. Get an accountant who can formalize Knot Theory, so that I can
   1. Save on tax while growing
   2. Get more guidance while growing (prioritization, grant, etc)
   3. Take out more profit (to enjoy and/or to invest into something else)
   4. Sell the business in the future
2. Inventory – Have a great handle on our inventory replenishment system
   1. So that we don’t run out of inventory – it’s a waste of time to address OOS, and it’s loss of profit, and it’s bad customer experience
   2. So that we don’t over order or under order – it’s best to order consistent the right amount without rushing our manufacturer; better for our relationship with manufacturer
3. Sales – Bring our sales up to ensure we have good business while we do this overhaul the next 3 to 6 months
4. Have product release road map planned out for the year
   1. So we are not caught off guard by holidays
   2. So we block out time needed for creating promotional material, promotional campaigns – everything is well thought-out so we get the most out of each release
   3. So we plan ahead and block out time needed for product innovation
5. Delegate and systemize big and small launches – this is the trickiest piece involving many talents and many steps
   1. Create new listings on all markets
   2. Create graphics for new listings
   3. Take product photos for new listings
   4. Take lifestyle photos
   5. Write description, blog, PR articles, SEO articles, landing pages
   6. Create landing pages
   7. Create ad graphics
   8. Work with marketing team
6. Delegate and systemize social media, marketing (email, text, ads, influencer, etc), and SEO as much as possible
   1. So someone is doing it consistently
   2. So we are growing continuously in a somewhat automated fashion – influencer seeding, collaborations, ads
7. Have Team lead on both Vancouver Team and VA Team, with 1 person cross-trained.
   1. So training and hiring can happen without my supervision
   2. So we have a back-up person
8. Delegate and systemize optimization
   1. improve conversion rate via split testing
   2. track metrics – e.g. measure our conversion, growth, reach, effectiveness of a campaign or any initiative
   3. remove inefficiencies, improve upon the metrics we’ve tracked
9. Innovation
   1. Product innovation
   2. Marketing innovation
   3. Growth innovation – any creative proposals to accelerate our growth

All of the above paves way for us to scale 10x.

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1. Accountant – contacted!
2. Inventory – will order enough for 3 to 6 months, to buy us some time
3. Sales – Bring our sales up for the next 3 to 6 months
   1. Launch CF4 and CF6 pre-engraved on Amazon (make sure we have enough inventory)
      1. Joy to create 3D rendered images
      2. VAs to create Amazon listings
   2. Launch dual layer pre-engraved on Amazon too
      1. Alyssa to engrave these rings
      2. I will take photos
      3. Joy to create 3D rendered images
      4. VAs to create Amazon listings
   3. Add dual layer custom engraved listings on Etsy
      1. Alyssa to engrave rings
      2. I will take photos
      3. I will create a role model listing for VA to replicate
      4. VAs to create replicated listings
   4. Add dual layer custom engraved listings on Shopify
   5. Add dual layer pre-engraved listings on Etsy
   6. Add dual layer pre-engraved listings on Shopify
   7. Simple launch
      1. Newsletter (be sure to add more Etsy emails)
      2. Post on social

Detailed action items:

1. Accountant – Will need to prepare for 2020 tax return or pay an instalment
2. Inventory – Have a great handle on our inventory replenishment system – how?
   1. Know our sales velocity so we can predict demand – how?
      1. Amazon – Sellerboard can generate a report, VA can process this every 3 months, or Ty (or another software developer) can write something for this, or we can buy some inventory management software
      2. Etsy, Shopify, and Amazon FBM – can query DS to get the data (using API to query), or for now, take an inventory snapshot (a column containing current inventory count), so after a month or 2 or 3, we know our sales velocity for it
   2. Know our current inventory – so we know how much more to order
      1. Schedule inventory count
      2. deduct from inventory after each sale or have the App do it?
   3. Prevent OOS orders
      1. Better Etsy listings
   4. Schedule inventory replenishment order so we are on top of re-ordering (after/during busy seasons + every 3 months)
   5. Right now we don’t have an easy way to track sales velocity on a SKU, so we will just order a lot (estimated to last us 6 months) to buy us some time.
   6. We need to redo our moulds too, and sizes will be corrected in the new mould, so we don’t want to overstock on this one.
   7. These are the apps to consider, for inventory syncing, re-order management:
      1. https://craftybase.com/ (best, possibly)
      2. https://www.zoho.com/ca/inventory/features/ (best, possibly)
      3. https://www.sellbrite.com/inventory-management-software/
      4. https://www.ecomdash.com/overview/

Business is good. Ray Ray is getting a twin this week! More envelopes to be delivered tomorrow (20,000pc). Just got the new ring tools that are slightly bigger. Alyssa is getting a hang of things. Office has more and more furniture. Facebook Ads are ok not spectacular, but overall our sales are good. Amazon doing better than last year. Etsy still strong. Our January was about $90K USD. 45 + 25 + 20 (Amazon+Etsy+Shopify)

If we hire 2 more people to engrave, we’ll be able to reach 3x or 4x the productivity! Aiming to grow 10 times.

More Amazon listings ($45K)
More designs I know will sell (horoscopes, dual layer) ($10K)
Influencer seeding ($35K)

These 3 actions can help us double. Probably can be handled by 4 full time staff and 2 engraving machines.

Then:
More budget for FB ads ($25K)
Better IG ($15K)
More of what worked before ($50K)

These actions will help us triple. 5 full time and 3 engraving machines. 2 Ray Rays and one expensive one.

Then:
Collaborations ($50K)
New products (bracelets? Swarovski?) ($30K)
More of what worked before ($100K)

These actions will help us reach $300+$150 = $450K/month.

That’s 5 times the revenue, bring us to $5MM~$6MM per year.

Then:
Higher conversion
Bigger marketing stunts
Subscription
Growth hacking

This will help us double. Bringing us to $12MM per year.

And that’s 10x our revenue!

 

 

Going through a course “Create the Love” that Cyndi sent me.

This part made me ball my eyes out:

What did you long for from your parents the most, as a child?

I wanted to go away on weekends with my family!

It seemed like everyone else in my class got to do that. I never even went to the beach with my parents! And we lived on an island!

They were always fighting. I wanted harmony, laughter.

But I didn’t know what that looked like.

Mom and Dad joking around, having a good conversation. I have NEVER seen that! Whoa.

I have seen them being intimate in bed together (somewhat sexual), and I felt a bit left out. That didn’t happen much though…maybe just once.

Other than that I’ve only seen them fight. Or Dad pitching his story or ideas to Mom and Mom was uninterested / didn’t believe in him making it happen. Or Mom begrudgingly served Dad late night dinner while he read newspaper and show no gratitude for her.

I also didn’t want to have a brother, because I didn’t want some of the love to go to him.

I felt love from Mom. She bought me cute clothes, took me to many interesting classes, did homework with me and we had fun, laughed at my jokes, made a real effort finding the best teachers and environment for me.

But later I also resented her because of how she thought I was ugly when I lost my hair. Because of how she withheld some love and affection when I lost my hair.  Also she always openly criticized my eyes and nose.

Now, I feel pretty good towards Mom. She doesn’t judge my looks negatively anymore. She thinks highly of me. She is a bit afraid to upset me. She misses me and wants me around. She spoils me with her cooking and her friends’ cooking. She spoils me with money and I spoil her with money. She sides with me, gives me freedom, doesn’t judge me at all! I feel very lucky.

Dad didn’t have a real issue with my alopecia, joking that I’m so brilliant my hair fell out. He taught me math and science and astronomy.

But Dad was not really there for me. He was all about his business. I felt not close to him at all. Also he had a bad temper. It didn’t happen much, but he did call me an idiot a few times, such as when I got him the wrong newspaper. I did not miss him at all when Mom and I came to Canada because I never was very close to him. Even now, I don’t miss him ever.

Now, I talk to Dad once in a while. I don’t really enjoy our conversations that much. He cuts me off or disagrees with me often. The topics are less interesting than before.

Both Mom and Dad are less interesting than before. They love talking about food prices haha. I like to fold clothes or do other chores when they talk.

Looking at Mom’s life, she has lots of friends, she dances, she laughs a lot, she is keeping herself healthy. She is pretty happy in general.

Dad has almost no friends. Loves his dog. Loves the internet as he learns a lot about history etc from it. He is probably happy enough too.

I much prefer Mom’s life.

When I’m old, I’ll want to have lots of good friends, laugh a lot, and do fun things together.

I think it’s reassuring to know that many of Mom’s close friends are made later on in her life. It’s not too late for me to start!

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A really cool insight from the course is that, if there was something that you longed for from your parents that you didn’t get, you can give it to yourself.

So, that would be, weekend trips / longer trips. Laughing and having fun with my partner. No judgement, no criticism. Lots of confidence in them, lots of support for them.

If I love my partners like how Mom loves me, then that’s pretty good. If I love them like how Mom loved Dad, then not good.

Actually I went on a few trips with Mom too. We have that. Maybe she missed out on that during her time with Dad and wanted more vacays too!

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Another insight from the course is to view your parents as the children of their parents. This allows you to be more understanding and forgiving.

What harms did my grandparents do to my parents?

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When I love people, they …think I’m generous. They give me more undivided attention. They are more sincere.

When I let people love me, they…enjoy it because I show gratitude and I reciprocate.

When I love people, I…give them all my attention, I go above and beyond, but without compromising my own livelihood, I am generous.

When I let people love me, I… well I always let people love me! As they should haha. When people love me I feel so happy, worthy. I want to love them back even more.